Having difficulty reaching orgasm is more common than you'd think. Let's talk about some reasons that you may be experiencing anorgasmia - and what you can do next!

Next Steps

• Read a recap on anorgasmia here: myintimacytherapist.com/post/what-is-anorgasmia
• Schedule a 15-minute consultation for sex therapy here: myintimacytherapist.com/hello

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The day-to-day of life can get a bit monotonous and stale, if less on autopilot. Let's talk about ways to add more energy and lightheartedness to your relationship! A bit of a refresh, if you will.

Work with Me

• Schedule a 15-minute consultation for individual or couples therapy here
• Follow @myintimacytherapist on Instagram

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Themes: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, intimacy, narrative therapy

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We don't like discomfort. And relationally, we tend to do anything in our power to avoid it. We'll intellectualize, we'll busy ourselves, we'll shut down... But the intimacy that you want is on the other side of confronting your discomfort. Let's talk about it.

Work With Me

• Schedule a 15-minute consultation for in-person (Atlanta) or telehealth individual/couples therapy: www.calendly.com/sadeferrier/counselingconsultation
• Download free resources on my website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: relationship issues, control issues, anxiety

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"I feel like sometimes I have to be your mother."

If you can relate to this phrase in your relationship, you may already be feeling the impact of this dynamic: constant irritability, high stress, and (of course) the complete lack of a sex drive.

Let's talk about it.

Themes: sexual intimacy issues, responsive desire

In this short & sweet episode, I talk you through ways to identify what warms you up sexually - even if intercourse feels "boring" or "neutral" to you.

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• Subscribe to the podcast for notifications when each new episode is available
• Schedule a 15-minute consultation for individual or couples sex therapy in Atlanta, GA: myintimacytherapist.com/hello

Themes: relationship issues, couples therapy, gratitude, mindfulness, four horseman (Dr. John Gottman)

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If your relationship is full of criticism, with few moments of gratitude or affirmation, we have a problem. For romance to thrive, a foundation of trust and genuine warmth is needed. Let's talk about it.

Work with Me

• Subscribe to the podcast for alerts when new episodes are released
• Want to stay more closely updated? Visit myintimacytherapist.com and sign up for emails
• Struggling to feel gratitude towards your spouse? Let's talk. Schedule a 15-minute consultation for individual or couples therapy on my website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: female sexuality, female libido, responsive desire, embodiment, sensuality

Many women do not understand their sexual responsiveness, and will often compare themselves to how they meet (or don't meet) their husband's expectations. Let's talk about ways you can begin to understand the uniqueness of your body - rather than comparing to what you've heard from others.

Work with Me

• Schedule a 15-minute sex therapy consultation call at myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: anxiety, intimacy issues, overwhelm

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If you are consistently overwhelmed or anxious, it will be harder to tap into your sexual desire - especially if you have responsive desire. Let's talk about the benefits of adding more negative space (or "blank space") to your daily routine.

Want More?

• Schedule a 15-minute consultation

for sex therapy in Atlanta, GA

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• Read more or download free resources on my website:

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Themes: sexual intimacy, sex therapy, libido, sex drive

It is quite popular for couples to say "I just want intimacy to feel natural!" But what does that mean? What does it take for sex to feel natural and organic? Let's talk about it.

Action Steps

• Schedule a 15-minute sex therapy consultation (for clients in the state of Georgia or willing to travel for an intensive):

myintimacytherapist.com/hello

• Resources and guides available at myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: secure attachment, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment

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For those who have a rocky relationship history, it can feel discouraging or impossible to imagine what a healthy, secure relationship looks like. Here's a picture to consider...

Action Steps

• Schedule a consult for individual or couples therapy in Atlanta GA:

myintimacytherapist.com/hello

A therapist's thoughts on cruise ships as a getaway vacation for couples. Pros and Cons of sailing away together!

Stay in Touch

• Subscribe to My Intimacy Therapist in your podcast app

• Follow on Instagram

@myintimacytherapist

Themes: phone addiction, intimacy issues

Our reliance on phones are interrupting opportunities for quality time and intimacy. Let's talk about what you can do.

Work with Me

• Follow on Instagram @myintimacytherapist

• Download resources on my website

myintimacytherapist.com

• Schedule a consultation

for individual or couples therapy in Atlanta, GA

Themes: holiday stress, difficulty family

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The holidays aren't always full of fun and joy. For some, it is a season of intense stress. For others, family is a sore spot. Let's talk about ways to manage stress based on your type of family relationship.

Let's Connect

• Follow @myintimacytherapist on Instagram

• Subscribe to My Intimacy Therapist in this app for episode notifications

• Get relationship resources by visiting

myintimacytherapist.com/hello

Themes: communication issues, secure attachment

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What differentiates strong couples from stuck couples?

In this episode, I'll do a deep dive into specifics of how you can shift your communication style in order to promote more connection.

Work with Me

• Schedule a consult, read blogs or download resources on at

myintimacytherapist.com

• Follow me on Instagram

@myintimacytherapist

What is "sexy?" In this episode, I'd like to offer an alternate perspective: no lingerie required.

Work With Me

• Visit the website for resources and a deeper dive: myintimacytherapist.com
• Schedule a 15-minute consultation (for residents of GA or those willing to come for a visit)

Themes: self-esteem, relationship issues, confidence

It seems like no matter what you do, your spouse isn't satisfied. There are so many layers to this conversation, but let's get started with this one: you are enough.

Next Steps

• Schedule a 15-minute consult call (residents of GA or those willing to travel to GA)
• Visit the website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: sexual intimacy, physical intimacy, sex therapy

Your energy levels are a huge part of sexual desire; but often, we expect ourselves to function like machines without taking the bigger picture into account. In this episode, I breakdown ways for you to think about - and manage - your mental and emotional energy before considering sexual intimacy.

Work with Me

• Download free resources on the website: myintimacytherapist.com
• Schedule a 15-minute consultation here

Themes: relationship maintenance, couples therapy, relationship needs

It makes sense that we focus on our needs first and foremost. But often times, we do this at the expense of caring for what our spouse desires in the relationship. Let's talk about it.

Ready to Work Together?

• Schedule a consult on my website | For residents of GA (or those interesting in traveling to ATL for a therapeutic intensive)
• Follow @myintimacytherapist on Instagram
• Download resources for relationship and sexual health at myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: communication issues, communication skills, emotional intimacy, sexual intimacy, sex therapy, couples therapy

Before you think about jumping into the bed, consider this: does your daily emotional connection also reflect that level of closeness? In this episode, we talk about why you may be accustomed to emotional chaos in your relationship - and what you can do today to start changing dysfunctional patterns.

Work with Me

• Schedule a consult for therapy (For residents of Georgia or those who are willing to travel for an intensive): myintimacytherapist.com/hello
• Has the podcast helped you? Leave a review in your podcast app to send a shoutout my way!

Themes: sexual health, pelvic floor therapy, vaginismus

Katie Moise is a pelvic floor physical therapist and the owner of ATL Pelvic Health, a specialty clinic in Atlanta dedicated exclusively to pelvic floor therapy. At ATL Pelvic Health, Katie and her team of physical and occupational therapists work one-on-one with patients to address a wide range of concerns—from pregnancy and postpartum recovery to chronic pelvic pain, urinary leakage, bowel dysfunction, and sexual health. The clinic also offers Pilates and small group Reformer classes, which complement therapy and provide patients with movement strategies they can carry into everyday life.

Katie is passionate about breaking the stigma surrounding pelvic health and making it a conversation everyone feels comfortable having. Through her clinic’s personalized, whole-body approach, she and her team are redefining what pelvic health care looks like in Atlanta.

Resources Mentioned

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D The Kiwi - Use Discount Code STRETCHY for 15% off, HSA/FSA compatible

ATL Pelvic Health - Work with Katie

• Website: ATLPelvicHealth.com/connect
• Instagram: @atlpelvichealth

Themes: communication issues, sexual issues

This is quite common in sex therapy: couples describe that talking about sex looks more like arguing about sex. But...this isn't sexy. Let's talk about it.

Sex Therapy in Atlanta, GA

• To work with me, schedule a consult at myintimacytherapist.com
• Not ready to schedule, but want to look around? Check out the resource library

Themes: couples therapy, motivation for change, stages of change

When deciding to go to therapy, it is common (and totally acceptable) to be unsure about what you want or need. However, if you are looking for progress and change, an investment of time and energy will be mandatory. Let's talk about what happens when you do (and don't) invest in the process of therapy.

Ready to Begin Therapy?

• Schedule a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
• To stay connected, sign up for emails here

Themes: spontaneous vs responsive drive, sex therapy, desire discrepancy

For those who have responsive drive, you may resonate with feeling irritable when your spouse "bothers you" for sex while you are in the middle of a task, or when you are tired at the end of the day. This episode covers once huge lifestyle shift that will improve your ability to be less irritable and more open to connection: TRANSITION TIME!

Work with me

I offer individual and couples therapy sessions in-person in Atlanta, Georgia and online to all Georgia residents.

• Schedule a therapy consultation here or on my website myintimacytherapist.com

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Not ready to begin working together but like listening in?

• Follow me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist
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In July of 2025, I officially started my private practice, My Intimacy Therapist, in Atlanta, Georgia for sex therapy and intimacy issues.

I created this space for those who are struggling with:

• anxiety and control
• low or high sex drive (compared to their significant other)
• trouble getting "in the mood" due to pain during sex
• communication that gets you stuck in cycles of blow ups or shut downs
• generational patterns that you will be the first to break
• overwhelmingly busy lives that suffocate sex and intimacy

If you can relate, welcome. Podcast topics will continue to cover these themes - but of course, the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast does not serve as therapeutic advice or relationship. If you would like to take these "food for thought" episodes a bit further, I invite you to visit my website myintimacytherapist.com and/or schedule a 15-minute phone consultation here.

Themes: broken trust, relationship issues, sexual intimacy

In this episode, we discuss common themes in broken trust around sexual intimacy in a relationship.

Take it a Step Further

• Work with me by scheduling a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
• Share this episode with your spouse or a close friend as a deep-dive conversation-starter!

Themes: sexual intimacy, communication

It is not uncommon for couples to get hot and heavy, and somewhere in the middle of kissing and touching, one spouse says "I'm sorry....", sometimes followed by an explanation of something that has gone wrong. In this episode, we dive into some of the reasons why we feel the need to apologize - and I offer a practical strategy to use instead.

Next Steps

• Share this episode with a friend or with your significant other!
• Leave a 5-star review in your podcast app if you find this episode helpful
• Get free resources or schedule a consultation on my website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: sex, intercourse, PIV, low desire

So often, women are frustrated because their [male] partners LOVE sexual intercourse...but she can take it or leave it. Let's talk about why PIV doesn't have to be your favorite way of connecting sexually with your man - and what you can enjoy instead!

Mentioned in the Podcast

• Attend a date night: myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights
• Work with me: calendly.com/sadeferrier

Themes: sexual intimacy, sexual development, sex therapy

If you are in a long-term relationship, you may have stumbled upon a surprising truth: you and your significant other don't know how to talk about sex. You've relied on doing the act in the past, but communicating about it feels challenging. Why?

In this episode, we talk about your "sexual story" and practical tools for beginning sexual conversations with your partner.

Next Steps

• Interested in attending a date night? Sign up at myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights
• Work with me: https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier

Themes: avoidant attachment, relationship anxiety, single adult

This episode is special, because I have invited a dear friend to join me for an open and honest conversation. If you can relate to experiencing relationship anxiety or avoidant attachment while trying to create a secure, loving relationship, this episode is for you!

About Emily: "I am a 37 year old Trauma and Emergency Surgery Nurse Practitioner in Salt Lake City, Utah. I’m a recovering personality theory addict, thrifter, pole dancer and amateur bee keeper. 

I had my first run-in with relationship anxiety at 14, and I’ve been on a decade long journey of intentional healing, acceptance and humor."

Work with Me

• Need help navigating dating? Let's work together! Schedule a consultation here: www.calendly.com/sadeferrier
• The podcast Emily and I mentioned towards the end of the episode: The Anxious Love Coach

Themes: conflict resolution, communication issues

There are some topics of conflict that feel a bit more heated than others. It's likely that this may be influenced by your perspective on whether or not you need them to agree with you. Let's talk about it.

Let's Connect!

• Website: myintimacytherapist.com
• Instagram: @myintimacytherapist

Themes: date night, relationship issues, long-term relationship

The typical advice for a dying relationship tends to be, "go on more dates." Which is true - partially. One-on-one time is integral to nurturing your relationship, but if you are deeply disconnected from each other, dinner and a movie won't do it. Going through the motions of a date night isn't quite hitting the mark.

Let's talk about how to think of "date night" a bit differently.

Let's Work Together

• Donate a gift to keep the podcast hosted on the air!: myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts
• Schedule a consultation to work with me: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: body awareness, body image, sex therapy, sexual attraction, mindfulness

This podcast episode comes from a listener question: "how do you feel sexy every day?" There are many parts to answering this question, but we will begin with the concept of how your relationship with your body impacts your feeling of sexiness.

Action Steps

• Enjoying the podcast? Send some love by leaving a rating/review on your app AND/OR sending a gift here (https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/podcasts)
• Need support? Work with me! (https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier))

Themes: seasonal affective disorder, seasonal depression, anxiety, holiday grief

"Hibernation season," as I affectionately call it, is the time of year where the holidays, time change, and seasonal transition bring a collective wave of...low energy. You may be noticing it already - but what do we do about it? How does it impact your relationship? Let's figure it out together.

What Can You Do?

• Want Support? Consider short-term therapy to get through the holidays. Schedule a consult here: calendly.com/sadeferrier
• Enjoying the podcast? You can show some love by leaving a rating/review in your podcast app or subscribing to patreon (https://www.patreon.com/sadejovanne) to support the behind-the-scenes of making this podcast possible

Themes: date nights, relationship maintenance

Here's the thing about date nights: if you just "go through the motions," you might be missing the mark on actually adding to your relationship. In this episode, we chat about ways to be more intentional with the type of date night you go on with your partner. PLUS: if you like the work that I do and are interested in a unique experience, join me for an upcoming date night event! Click below to register (or stay in the loop)

Attend a Date Night

• Visit myintimacytherapist.com/date-nights to attend an upcoming event or sign up to receive updates on future events!

Themes: trust, sexual intimacy, infidelity, communication issues, vulnerability

When speaking of broken trust, affairs often get the primary focus. However, there are so many other ways that trust can be broken. You may be in a situation where your relationship is overall positive, but then something happens within your sexual relationship that causes broken trust. You may wonder whether or not they were careless in their actions, and have difficulty allowing yourself to be truly vulnerable with them in the bedroom ever again.

Listen to this episode for practical tools to begin communicating about broken sexual trust with your significant other

Get Tickets for Couples Date Night

• Want help practicing communication around sexual intimacy? Visit myintimacytherapist.com/date-night to get tickets for my next sensual date night experience, hosted in Atlanta, GA

Themes: avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, dysfunctional cycle, self-fulfilling prophecy, self-sabotage, passive aggressiveness, cognitive distortions

Yes, your significant other is doing (or not doing) so much to damage your relationship. BUT, is there any possibility that some of your actions may be feeding the cycle and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy? What would happen if we make sure our lane is completely clear before blaming our partner?

Next Steps

• Are you SUBSCRIBED to the podcast yet?? Make sure to click the button and get notified each week when a new episode is live
• Work with me: https://www.calendly.com/sadeferrier
• Browse the website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: communication issues, sex, sexual intimacy, avoidance, anxiety

If you feel anxious or avoidant when it comes to communicating about sex, then you likely have a difficult time letting your significant other know when you are displeased by something during sex. This episode is meant as a beginner's guide to breaking past the anxiety and starting to talk about your sex life!

Next Steps

• Get the guided online course (with activities) on communicating about sex: "Intimacy Mindset Makeover" : https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant
• Work with me (therapy consult): myintimacytherapist.com/therapy
• Work with me (dating coaching consult): https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/dating-coaching

Themes: conflict resolution, communication issues, affection, anxious attachment, overwhelmed, stress management, avoidant attachment

There are seasons of life that simply overwhelm us. It could be that everything is good and positive between you and your significant other, but life's demands (children, work, family drama, etc.) can intrude on your blissful state. What do you do when you miss your person, and would like to call their attention back to you?

Next Steps

• Work with me (therapy for Georgia residents): myintimacytherapist.com
• Subscribe to the podcast and leave a rating!

Themes: sex therapy, mismatched desire/libido, busyness, relationship sabotage

There are a billion reasons that a couple might say their sex life is stuck: busyness and "it doesn't feel organic" are probably top of the list. This episode is meant to change how you think about this state of stuck-ness... and how to move past it.

Next Steps

• Work with me: https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/
• Download free resources: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: counseling, couples therapy, sex therapy, communication issues

Is finding a therapist part of the reason why you haven't started therapy yet? If so, I get it!

Episode Resources

• Find a Therapist: Psychologytoday.com
• Find a Therapist: American Board of Christian Sex Therapists
• WORK WITH ME: ](https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/)[https://calendly.com/sadeferrier/

Themes: mindfulness, low desire, low libido, fantasy, sex therapy

If you have trouble letting yourself think intimate thoughts or feel arousal, this episode is for you! It is a "light" mindfulness meditation to help you take one small step into the arena. This visualization is not erotic in nature, but rather takes a more open, non-directive approach that invites you to get curious about what type of connection you would want to create if there was no pressure for things to look a certain way.

Please note: this episode does not count as (or substitute for) therapeutic treatment.

Work with Me

• Individual or couples therapy: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/therapy
• Dating coaching: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/dating-coaching

Themes: sexual intimacy, low desire, low libido, anxiety, control issues, Type A personality

If you are used to being the "project manager" of life, then it is highly likely that you have trouble letting go and enjoying intimacy. This episode outlines practical ways that you can release control and anxiety in your intimate life.

Work with Me

• Book a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
• If you enjoyed the episode, take 5 seconds to leave a rating or review!

Themes: avoidant attachment, low desire, low sex drive, intimacy issues

Be honest: are you avoiding sex with your significant other? There are many reasons that engaging with sexual intimacy can be unappealing in a relationship. This episode explores some of the possible reasons... and how to start addressing the issue.

Work with Me

• Visit myintimacytherapist.com to book a free 15-minute consultation for sex therapy in the state of Georgia

Themes: sexual intimacy, communication, relationship issues, sex therapy, low desire

Your ability to directly communicate what you like about intimacy - both to your significant other and to yourself - is HUGE if you want to get on the same page in your sex life.

So challenge yourself: do you know what you like and why?

Work with Me

• Book a consultation at myintimacytherapist.com
• Follow @myintimacytherapist on Instagram!

Themes: relationship anxiety, relationship ocd, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, dating anxiety, new relationship, self-sabotage

Do you feel constant, intense urges to end your relationship? Or feel your brain being hyper-critical of your partner - even though you feel that they are safe and a good match for you? If so, the term "relationship OCD" or "relationship anxiety" might help shed light on what is going on.

Our guest for this episode is Alex Bishop, a registered counselor from Canada:

"Hi, I’m Alex!

As someone who has struggled relationally with a diverse spectrum of issues from relationship anxiety/ROCD, disorganized attachment, intimacy and commitment issues, and doubt, I get how difficult it can be to be in a relationship and feel settled and secure. I know what it’s like to desperately want to be committed and feel open-hearted and at the same time want to run for the hills! With all of the internal disorganization I was experiencing, I knew I needed help and that the only way through my relationship problems was to seek professional help.

In my healing through various different modalities from one-to-one therapy, group work, psychedelic medicine, and breath and bodywork I slowly worked towards more security within. I became better able to communicate my thoughts and feelings, I no longer felt a massive desire to run away, my doubt about whether I was with the right person dissolved and I learned that everything I had been experiencing in my intimate relationships had ties to childhood trauma and relational wounding. I learned that it wasn’t safe to get close to people and open my heart. My continued healing allows me to open my heart more and more and enjoy a safe, loving relationship.

Transcending these difficulties allows me to now guide others into doing the same. As a Registered Counsellor I now help others with a wide range of personal and relational issues work towards a more fulfilling loving relationship with their partner and themselves!"

Work with Alex

• Instagram @forloveweheal
• Website www.forloveweheal.com

Themes: comparison, avoidant attachment, perfectionism, relationship advice, relationship OCD

In your most well-meaning attempt to gain guidance and clarity, you ask a close friend - or maybe even Google - about your deepest relationship uncertainties or fears. But sometimes advice-seeking can become a repetitive compulsion to seek reassurance or "normalizing" of your relationship. Let's talk about the potential negatives of asking others for relationship advice.

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• Instagram: @myintimacytherapist
• Website: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: fear, anxiety, control, self-sabotage, controlling tendencies, anxious-attachment, disorganized attachment, avoidant attachment, intimacy

If you (or someone who knows you) would describe yourself as being a "controlling person" at times, this episode is for you. Obviously, you want to feel good in your relationships. But maybe you're having a hard time noticing how your need for control is sabotaging the relationship you want!

Work with Me

• Book a free consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

Theme: anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, disorganized attachment, secure attachment, new relationship, dating, self-sabotage in relationships, relationship OCD

So, you've been on the dating scene for a hot minute. You have aaalll the horror stories of dating apps, ghostings, toxic relationships, or even some well-meaning situationships. But here you are; you have met a significant other that respects you, values your time, and wants to create a secure relationship with you.

So why are you freaking out?!

This episode is for you if you are having trouble adjusting to a new relationship with someone that you genuinely want to be with. Let's navigate these beginning waters together!

Action Steps

• Attachment styles book: Attached by Amir Levine
• Work with me one-on-one: myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: communication issues, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, self-help, personal growth, relationship issues

You are the type of person to see a problem and solve it. You do all the research on your emotions, your relationship, what you should/shouldn't do...and it has been helping! But up to a point. You're hitting a wall because your partner won't do their work. They won't change. OR, you are fine when single - but as soon as you enter a relationship, you feel triggered again. You're back to square one with the anxiety, the protest behaviors, the old patterns.

Tune in to the episode to learn more about the meaning of the phrase: "relational wounds are healed relationally"

Themes: criticism, negative self-talk, protest behaviors, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, communication issues, shame, relationship issues, low self-esteem

The way that you choose to speak and think can create a personal prison, trapping you in a life that you don't even want. Let's talk about why this is damaging, and how to change it!

Work with Me

• Click "subscribe" to always be updated when a new podcast episode is live!
• Visit myintimacytherapist.com for blogs, quizzes and activity downloads
• Schedule a 15-minute consult on my website

Themes: anxious attachment, reassurance sex, anxiety, avoidant attachment, intimacy

Have you ever used sex as a means to get the emotional closeness that seemed to not exist outside of the bedroom? If you realize that you want emotionally intimate, relational sex but have been caught in a whirlwind of sexual encounters where you feel anxious about your connection with the person - this episode is for you! We talk about the difference between sex fueled by insecure attachment versus sex in the context of a more secure connection.

Work with Me

• Get blogs, quizzes and downloads at myintimacytherapist.com
• Follow me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist

Themes: sexual fantasy, sexual shame, purity culture, low libido, low sex drive, intimacy, relationships

If you have trouble thinking about yourself or your partner in a sexual way, it can be hard to integrate intimacy into your relationship. You may feel a "block" or even a complete separation from that part of yourself. This episode speaks to what fantasy is, and how you can use it in a constructive way to connect in complete intimacy with your person.

Action Steps

• Download free intimacy resources and quizzes on my website, myintimacytherapist.com
• Share this episode with a friend!
• Give the podcast a rating in your Apple Podcasts or Spotify app

Themes: therapy, counseling, change, conflict resolution, communication issues, resentment, relationship issues

So, you made it to therapy! You know I'm really excited for you. But there's a common frustration that many clients have when sitting next to their partner in the office: (a) my spouse is being fake in front of the therapist, or (b) why is my spouse changing so quickly when I've been begging them to do the same thing for years?

Let's talk about it.

Next Steps

• Relationship and intimacy blogs and downloads are available on my website, myintimacytherapist.com
• Work with me! Book a free consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

Themes: sex drive, mismatched libido, high sex drive, low libido, communication, relationship issues

So you are annoyed by your partner's high sex drive. Maybe it's the way they initiate, or they way they touch you. Either way, your interest is beyond low - and has even potentially gotten to a place of resenting them for their persistent need for sex.

In this episode, we begin by exploring some reasons that the two of you may have gotten to where you are. Then, we move to the "sexual attitudes" under the surface, and how to have honest and new conversations about what you want your sexual intimacy to look like. That way, you can both feel fully seen, fully known, and fully loved.

Similar Episodes

• Ep 16 - "Try This! Intimacy Questions to Ask Your Boo"
• Ep 17 - "Storytime! Low Desire & Sex Therapy"
• Ep 31 - "It's Hard to Open Up: How to Manage Shame in Intimacy"

Work with Me!

• Visit myintimacytherapist.com to book a consultation for a therapy session (GA residents)
• Also visit the website for free blogs, quizzes and downloadable resources

Themes: low sex drive, low desire, libido, communication issues

You know that your drive is low - but what do you do about it? This episode is focused on what you can do to understand and address the mental or contextual blocks to your drive.

PLEASE NOTE: the medical and physiological aspect of your drive are very important components - though not discussed in this episode - and should be addressed with your physician (i.e. hormonal imbalances, medications, recent procedures, muscle tension, chronic pain, etc.).

Next Steps

• Purchase the Intimacy Mindset Makeover Online Course: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant
• Get free downloads or book a consult call: myintimacytherapist.com

Being proactive about your relationship is a great way to get ahead of any hairline fractures that could lead to deeper issues if unattended to. I love a good yearly (or quarterly) check-in to see how your relationship is doing!

Next Steps

• Subscribe to the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
• Book a free therapy consultation at myintimacytherapist.com

This is for your wellbeing as well as your significant other's: remember to be grateful. There are two sides to this coin. Sometimes it is difficult to remember expressing our gratitude... but other times, it can be challenging to receive our partner's expression of love and affection.

If you struggle with either, this episode is for you!

Next Steps

• Subscribe to the podcast on Apple Podcasts or Spotify
• Share with a friend!
• Visit myintimacytherapist.com to schedule a consult or download free intimacy goodies!

Relationships are hard - and even harder when you are in your 30s and 40s and have a heavy history of baggage, breakups, and unhealthy patterns that you carry with you. I stumbled upon our guest's work while scrolling through TikTok and becoming captivated by his format for illustrating the anxious-avoidant dynamic that we often experience in relationships. They were skits of shorts, giving a glimpse into the dialogue that we think but never say aloud.

Simon Nicolaas is a varsity basketball player turned kinesiologist turned relationship coach who was inspired to take on this work from experiencing terrible break ups, followed by working with amazing coaches. Simon currently lives in Bali with his wife, 4 dogs and 5 cats.

This episode explores how to consciously choose love over fear in the daily building and maintenance of secure, trusting relationships. Let's get deep!

Get Relationship Coaching with Simon

• Instagram: @simon.nicolaas
• Tiktok: @love.understood

Sometimes the hum of life becomes monotonous, routine, exhausting. You may be feeling a lack of luster in your relationship, or even fatigued from the everyday efforts of relationship maintenance. This episode contains a bit of validation and a potential action step for you.

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If you are single and are part of the Christian faith, this episode is made specially for you! Today's guest is the CEO and co-founder of If You Know You Know Dating - and if you've been in the dating pool for a hot minute, frustrated with the lack of folks who are looking for the same thing as you...then you have to check out this episode.

And, of course - grab a ticket for the next mixer in your city!

About Our Guest, Mel

"Hi, I'm Mel! I grew up in a Christian home in Phoenix, AZ. I got saved when I was 11YO. I love to travel, especially with my friends, and I have lived in New Zealand, Australia, and Costa Rica. I moved to San Diego 4 years ago and started my business IYKYK Dating early 2021 after I got laid off from my full time software sales job due to the pandemic! I'm passionate about mental health, therapy, and obviously Christian dating ;) Oh, and also I love doing DIY projects! "

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We're back! Does that make this a "Season 2" of sorts?

In this episode, we discuss a mindset shift to relieve the tension and anxiety that comes with worrying about what your partner is or isn't doing for you. It's a tricky one...but there are a lot of more helpful benefits that can come with "staying in your lane" versus hyperfocusing on what is out of your control.

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Themes: deconstruction, purity culture, sex in marriage, mental health, relationships, Christianity

It's important to me to create an inviting space for challenging questions, open curiosity, and lots of nuance. And so, here is another real story that you may be able to relate to!

Ayana Lage is a lifestyle blogger and freelance writer. She writes about motherhood, mental health, social justice, and everyday life on her blog and hosts the Asked By Ayana podcast, a show focused on dream jobs and career journeys.

Get Connected with Ayana Lage

• Podcast: Asked by Ayana
• Website: ayanalage.com
• Instagram: @ayanagabriellelage

Resources Mentioned: This Here Flesh by Cole Arthur Riley

Themes: boundaries, expectations, control, trust, affair recovery

Control is suffocating when you're trying to build trust and intimacy in a relationship. Learn the difference between communicating your boundaries and expectations from an open, collaborative stance versus from a controlling stance.

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Themes: communication skills, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment

If you don't know how to answer the question "what do you need?", or if you would consider yourself to not be a "needy" person, this episode is for you! Let's talk about how to communicate with our significant other in a way that brings us closer (intimacy) and give them chances to care for you.

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**TRIGGER WARNING Themes: domestic violence, abusive relationship, toxic relationship, survivor of abuse, divorce, trauma, Christian divorce, healthy relationship

Real Stories

Relational trauma and abuse is a experience that so many individuals suffer through in isolation. Today's episode guest and I discuss her experience of an abusive relationship and how she found healing and hope afterwards.

Jennifer Adams is an Associate Marriage & Family Therapist who specializes in Trauma Healing and is on both the Trauma Informed Care as well as Diversity, Equity and Inclusion Committee Member at San Fernando Valley Community Mental Health Center. She’s also earning her Ph.D. in Trauma and Disaster Relief at Northcentral University. Jennifer’s experience of healing her own childhood trauma sparked her desire to help others be free.

Get Her Ebooks! https://www.jadamsmarketing.com/ebooks

Connect with Jennifer Adams

• Personal Instagram: @runwayredla
• Professional Instagram: @jadamsmarketing
• Resources mentioned: Psychopath Free by Jackson Mackenzie, The Christian Chick's Guide to Divorce by Suzanne Reeves
• TherapistAid.com
• Netflix TV Show: Maid

Themes: therapy, counseling, first session, marriage counseling, individual therapy

So you did it! You made the first step and you contacted a therapist to schedule your initial session. Now that the date is on the calendar, you may be feeling a lot of things... Relieved? Anxious? Hopeful? Terrified?

Listen to this episode. Let's talk about it. Spoiler alert: you're gonna do great!

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Themes: Communication issues, passive aggressiveness, conflict resolution, dating, past baggage

We often see posts on social media and the internet warning you about your partner's red flags... but what about yours?

It's time to look inside in order to get a head start on improving your relationship. I know that you simply want to be heard and understood by your partner, and this is the only way you know how to get their attention or express your needs. But let's learn some replacement tools that might better help get you what you truly want!

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Themes: codependent relationship, codependency, separation anxiety, anxious attachment, long-distance relationship, military spouse, infidelity/affairs

This podcast episode is thanks to a listener request!

Separation anxiety can originate in a lot of different ways - and can play out differently as well. Let's talk about how to better understand the origins in order to directly address the "how" of reducing your anxiety internally and with your partner.

Plus - do you use any protest behaviors or act out when you're feeling anxious? We also talk about how to change that pattern so that you don't create a self-fulfilling prophecy by pushing your partner away!

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Themes: conflict resolution, communication skills, vulnerability, shame, emotional intimacy, men

Men have been through some stuff. Between high expectations on who they should be, plus the inability to "open up" without being perceived as weak, it seems like there is no emotional safety zone for the guys out there.

Except for their relationship. The special person they've chosen to build a life with.

But what happens when we - or their past partners - become harmful as well? (Note: I am generalizing and speaking to the male-female dynamic in heteronormative relationships, but this can apply to anyone). I've heard horror stories of what men have experienced from women who may or may not be aware of the damage they've caused...

"I'll never open up again" is usually the end result.

If you can listen to this episode with an open heart. No need to be defensive; if these aren't your behaviors, then it doesn't apply to you! Maybe you'll learn more about how his mother or past partners impacted who he is today. But also...get that mirror out and let's consider the ways we may be unintentionally reinforcing the very outcome that we don't want. And...how to change so that our actions encourage emotional vulnerability and safety in our relationships.

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Themes: communication issues, conflict resolution, trust, broken trust, following through

If your relationship is experiencing trust issues, it can feel like all of your efforts are being poured into a bottomless glass. Frustration is likely high, and the warm and fuzzy feelings are hard to get back.

I have a suggestion that goes to the root of the problem: consistent self-discipline aids in building or rebuilding trust. As they say...actions speak louder than words. In this episode we'll explore how to practice this trust-building technique in relationships where trust has been broken (i.e. affairs, saying harsh words, making poor decisions that impact our partner), and in relationships where we can't trust our partner to follow-through or show up for us.

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Themes: communication style, communication issues, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, communicating about sex

Have you ever had a moment where someone - a partner, a friend, a therapist - asks you a question, and you completely draw a blank? "I don't know!" you immediately blurt out. This episode is all about how you can find the answer within so that you can dig deeper into communication that fosters strong connection!

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Sex therapy is a subset of marriage and family therapy that focuses on improving sexual dysfunctions and intimacy issues. If you have never heard of it before and are curious about how it can help you, you'll want to tune into this episode!

Examples of intimacy issues: partners have different sex drive/libido, inability to communicate about sex, vaginismus (sexual pain), anorgasmia (not able to orgasm), arousal issues, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, sexual trauma, mixed orientation relationships (one partner may be heterosexual while the other is queer or asexual), etc.

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Themes: Conflict Resolution, Communication Skills, Dating, Marriage, Anxious Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Pursue-Withdraw

In this episode, Shaun Galanos (@thelovedrive) and I get into a fight. (Don't worry, it's just a role play). Listen as an argument explodes with two conflicting styles of communication. Then, listen as we dissect what went wrong and try it again with our helpful communication tools.

You can also listen to our past episodes together:

• "Exploring Sexual Intimacy" on The Love Drive: https://www.shaungalanos.com/podcast/exploring-sexual-intimacy-with-sade-ferrier/
• "Dating Myths...and Why They Don't Work": Episode 22 on the My Intimacy Therapist Podcast

Work with Shaun

• Website: shaungalanos.com
• Instagram @thelovedrive
• Purchase the Healthy Communication Course (or one of his other relationship & dating courses) here: shaungalanos.com/courses

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So often, our intimate lives run on autopilot: as long as the hormones and good emotions are flowing, we're all good! But what happens when the hormones take a day (or year) off? When life becomes a bit more routine? How do you keep an active and satisfying intimate life?

It isn't about keeping up with sexual trends or waiting for your partner to initiate. It's about knowing what your "sexual plant" needs to thrive! Listen to the episode to learn new ways to think about your intimacy needs

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If you were raised in Purity Culture and are not trying to figure out how to integrate spirituality and sexuality as an adult, this one is just for you! Use these prompts to help you cultivate values and a sexual ethic - and definitely pause the episode to give yourself as much time as you need!

Journaling encouraged :)

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You know what you want in a relationship, but you can't seem to find anyone to match your energy. Well...what if your energy is actually counterproductive to the relationship that you're trying to create? What if you are part of the problem?

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Are you the initiator or "driver" in your relationship - meaning nothing gets done without you? Or, maybe you are happy to receive and do what your partner needs, but you're often told that that isn't enough.

Let's talk about this relationship dynamic and why being on polar opposites of the spectrum may be sabotaging happiness and intimacy in your relationship.

See the episode transcript on my website here

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If you are single and have experienced anxious attachment, toxic relationships, red flags, ghosting, situationships and all the like - this episode is for you! Our guest, Amber Grubenmann, is the creator of the highly-rated Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast. She works with women of all backgrounds in her group and 1:1 coaching programs helping them go from dating to exclusive- without playing games

Dating Coaching with Amber

• Website: www.ambergrubenmann.com
• Podcast: Women's Dating and Confidence Podcast
• Instagram: @ambergrubenmann

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If you and your partner are stuck in communication issues, you can likely think of one thing that they continuously ask you to do... but you haven't done it yet. Or, you've tried, but they still seem unsatisfied.

It's time to get real. Let's talk about how to make changes and meet our partner's needs.

Resources

• Blog post: "How to Choose the Right Therapist"
• Intimacy Mindset Makeover Audio Course: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com/radiant
• Dr. John Gottman: The Four Horsemen

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Knowing why you and your partner are together can help you connected and on the same page in your relationship. What type of relationship do you want? In other words, think about what you consider to be important in a relationship.

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Disclaimer: Podcast episodes and relationship content are for educational purposes only and do not count as a substitute or form of therapeutic intervention or treatment. Consult with a psychotherapist or begin counseling in order to get specific guidance for your circumstances.

This episode is for those who are currently in an affair or feel they are in a compromising situation. What do you do when you sense discomfort in your relationship and don't know how to get your needs met?

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If you have experienced searing pain, burning, or the "hitting a wall" feeling when you attempt intercourse, you've likely already done your research and learned of a term called vaginismus. In this episode, pelvic floor therapist Dr. Laura Meihofer and I give you the inside scoop!

Dr. Laura Meihofer is an experienced pelvic floor Physical Therapist, athletic trainer and yoga instructor. She honed her experience by tackling the most complex pelvic cases during her Doctorate program and patient care at the renowned Mayo Clinic in Minnesota. From bladder leakage, constipation and diastasis recti to pain during sex, finding your orgasm and low libido, Laura is dedicated to demystifying the pelvic floor.

“Pelvic floor issues are common, but they are not normal. Treatment can help you find relief and improve your quality of life. I can help you gain optimal health through knowledge and movement.” - Dr. Laura Meihofer

This Episode Explores the Following Questions: What is vaginismus? What can you expect in pelvic floor therapy? How can you advocate for consent in the medical room? What if your partner isn't supportive in your journey? How do you get started with finding a PT or sex therapist?

Follow Dr. Laura Meihofer

Website: laurameihofer.com Instagram: @laurameihofer Facebook: @laurameihofer Youtube: Laura Meihofer, The Pelvic Expert

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What happens when you are raised in Purity Culture - then become a parent? This episode explores common questions that parents have when trying to decide how to talk to their kids about sex and sexual development.

Our special guest, Dr. Camden Morgante, is a psychologist in the state of Tennessee currently writing a book on the myths of Purity Culture.

DISCLAIMER: Remember, this podcast episode does not constitute as therapeutic treatment, intervention or advice.

We do mention stages of development in children and the difference between age-appropriate self-exploration versus inappropriate touching behaviors. Please note that if you suspect your child has had inappropriate sexual contact with another individual, consult with local authorities and a trauma-informed registered play therapist (RPT) in your area that knows how to engage in child therapy.

Follow Dr. Camden

Website: www.drcamden.com Free Quiz: “Which Purity Culture Myth Affects You?”: www.drcamden.com/take-the-quiz/ Work with me: www.drcamden.com/coaching Instagram: www.instagram.com/drcamden Facebook: www.facebook.com/drcamden Twitter: www.twitter.com/doctorcamden

It's possible to be compatible with someone for dating, but not for marriage! In this episode, be challenged on whether your current partner (or the people you date) are great candidates for long-term relationship, or if your connection may only work in the dating experience!

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"New year, new me" isn't real; well, not on autopilot. In this final episode of the year, we talk about the how of transitioning from one chapter to the next - whether it's based on a calendar year or simply your decision to make a change in your lifestyle, relationships, or goals.

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Let's be clear: intimacy is hard work. And if Intimacy were the superhero with the flowing cape, Shame would be the villain always trying to sabotage the moment. So if you want intimate relationships and want to know how to proactively address the shame that comes up, this episode is for you!

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"Comparison is the thief of joy"; have you heard that phrase before? It's so true. If you get caught up in comparison mindset, it's easy to find yourself spiraling lower and lower into a negative headspace.

This meditation may be a bit challenging - after all, sometimes it's hard for us to believe good things for ourselves - but it will help reorient your thinking. Give it a try!

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On this podcast, we talk about intimacy that is multifaceted: spiritual, emotional, and physical all combined. But what does it look like to share spiritual intimacy with a partner?

I personally believe that spiritual intimacy can be uniquely created by each couple. That is, you and your partner get to intentionally decide what it means to share and grow in spirituality together. It is really important to me to share real life stories on the podcast; people talking about how they, personally, have integrated the concept of intimacy into their relationships.

Our special guest today is Christina DeLosAngeles! She is an associate marriage and family therapist, relationship coach, wife and mom of two living in California. Her passion is in helping couples reimagine what it means to co-create more connection in their relationship while working together towards career and lifestyle goals. 

Follow her on Instagram: @christina_dla 

Have you ever minimized your feelings about something? Maybe you feel hurt, afraid or anxious...but you choose to focus on all of the reasons why you shouldn't feel that way. Or why it isn't a big deal.

Let's talk about balance between validating your experience while also not allowing you feelings to take hold of the steering wheel. Whether you're single, dating or in a relationship - this tool will change your perspective on approaching your emotions.

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The "relationship plant" is my practical tip to help you meet the specific needs of your relationship and your soul! When you can be aware of what is most important to keep your relationship nourished and well, you'll be more likely to catch areas that are slipping before it becomes a crisis.

This is for individuals, too! Keep your personal plant thriving, and you'll be able to choose and care for your relationship better.

So, what do you (and your partner) need?

• Air: what makes you feel free, light, flowy?
• Water: what nourishes you, replenishes you?
• Sun: what gives you energy, adventure or passion?
• Soil: what keeps you grounded, secure?

Feel free to change the definitions of these to whatever suits you best! This is just to get you started :)

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"You decide who you want to be in relationship." -Manwell Reyes

If we're being honest, we BS ourselves in relationships all the time. Do you really not see your toxic traits? Did you really not see those red flags in your partner when you were dating them? Truth is, both people play parts in relationship dysfunction. And if you are thinking, "I didn't do anything to deserve this!" Manny very directly responds, "then the one thing that you did do is choose that partner." (31:10)

This episode is for those - single or coupled - who are ready for an ice bucket of honesty water. Tune in and consider what parts may apply to your current or past relationships!

Get to Know Manwell Reyes

• Podcast: Nights at the Round Table
• Instagram: @manwellreyes

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You know the experience of FOMO, being left out while everyone is celebrating their next big thing?

You're single, and everyone is celebrating their new relationship or engagement. You're in a relationship, but attending everyone else's wedding. You are actively trying to become a parent, and feel disheartened when yet another friend posts a pregnancy announcement on social media.

For this reason, I propose the concept of "personhood," where we celebrate little and big steps in your growth as a person -- not just tied to relationship or family-oriented milestones.

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**Please note: podcasts episodes are not a form of, or replacement for, therapeutic treatment. Please consult with a licensed therapist in order to receive direct therapeutic intervention for your specific story.

Are you choosing relationships consciously, or on autopilot?

When we choose relationships on autopilot (i.e. going with what feels right, what we're used to, what's familiar), we'll repeat the same pattern over and over again. In other words, dating the same person, just with a different face. Or, ending up in situations where our environment (or we, ourselves) are unsafe.

But how do you change this pattern?

Ivy Kwong, therapist and coach, talks about her specific history of trauma and unhealthy patterns, and how she began to consciously choose a healthy, life-giving relationship.

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• Visit her website: bareivy.com
• Instagram: @bareivy

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There are many ways to self-sabotage in a relationship, but triangulation is one of the most dangerous.

Sometimes, our relationship (us + our partner) experiences too much stress or tension. There's an elephant in the room that we don't know how to discuss. A problem we don't know how to resolve. An issue that we repeatedly blow up about. But when we feel incapable of approaching the problem head-on, we bring in a miscellaneous "third party" to relieve the tension on the relationship system.

And this is the beginning of a slow death to the relationship we hold so dear. What are you triangulating to ease the tension in your relationship?

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Dating as a single adult can be...a challenge, to say the least. It's hard to know what makes someone a valuable partner, or what makes someone a walking red flag. In this episode, relationship coach Shaun Galanos (also known as The Love Drive) joins us to talk about popular dating myths. We're sure you've heard some of these before...

Remember: relationships are fluid and people are complex. Be careful about snap judgments.

Get to Know Shaun Galanos

• Online dating & relationship courses: https://www.shaungalanos.com/
• Follow on Instagram: @thelovedrive
• The Love Drive Podcast with Shaun Galanos

Therapeutic Resources: betterhelp.com psychologytoday.com

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On your journey towards personal development, healing from trauma, or creating a long-lasting relationship, you're going to notice that you feel.... tired. You might even think that you haven't made any progress!

This episode is your personal pick-me-up. You're doing the work. Keep going. Listen again and again if it helps you remember this.

Next Steps:

• For homework, try making a list of all the ways you've grown, improved, or healed in the past 3 months, 6 months, year, or 5 years. Think of what is different, or what is not as intense compared to the past.
• Looking for more relationship and intimacy content? Visit the website to take free quizzes, download activities, or read the blog! www.myintimacytherapist.com

If you are up to date on the Marvel Cinematic Universe, then you know that the Infinity Stones were a big deal over the past few years. This episode offers a unique twist on: how can you use the infinity stones to benefit your relationship?

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Starting a new dating relationship or entering the newlywed phase can be....surprising. After finding the person that you absolutely adore, you may feel shocked to find that opening up, letting down your walls, and getting close to your boo creates a lot of tension, anxiety, or confusion that you didn't previously feel.

Maybe you've experienced Purity Culture and aren't sure how to connect in the realm of physical intimacy. Or maybe you notice that sharing your feelings and navigating conflict is a lot harder than you'd thought.

In this episode, I speak with spoken word poet, speaker and actress Arielle Estoria about her personal experiences with singleness and coupling.

More About Arielle Estoria

Arielle Estoria is made of sass and good intentions, does not believe in surface level conversations, is a good coffee paired with even better conversation enthusiast and breakfast burritos and flowers are her love language.

Arielle has shared her work through custom spoken word pieces, workshops and themed keynote talks with companies such as Google, Sofar Sounds, Lululemon, Dressember, Tedx, the SKIMS campaign by Kim Kardashian and more.

Arielle’s first EP, a collection of music and poetry called “Symphony of a Lioness” and her single “Magic (In Your Bones)” are available on iTunes or Apple Music. She is Co-author of two collections of poetry: Vagabonds and Zealots (2014) and Write Bloody Spill Pretty (2017) which can both be found on Amazon.com.

Website: arielleestoria.com Instagram: @arielleestoria Itunes and Spotify: Arielle Estoria Twitter: @arielleestoria

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Sure, orgasms are widely bragged about in TV, songs, and maybe in your circle of close friends. But what if you haven't ever had an orgasm before? What if you're having trouble with your current partner? What if you don't know what an orgasm is, really?

Here's your discreet episode to understand how mind, body and soul come together to create the orgasmic experience - and (plot twist) why I don't think they should be considered as important as they are!

Action Steps:

• Want guidance for different, non-intercourse options for sexual intimacy? Purchase Intimacy Mindset Makeover digital course (with activities) HERE

• Get more resources on intimacy by reading the blog and downloading your free couple's touch guide by exploring the My Intimacy Therapist website here: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com

I've always been in love with story as a format to better understand concepts... so here you go! Disclaimer: this is completely fictional and is not based on any real persons. However, this story is one that you may be able to relate to.

Action Steps

• Get the Intimacy Mindset Makeover online course (with individual & couple activities!)
• Explore the blog on my website: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com

Oh! If this show has meant something to you, I'd appreciate a review on Apple Podcasts! Thank you...I'm honored that you'd take 5 minutes out of your day to share your thoughts with me and with others!

Being able to discuss your likes, dislikes, needs and desires around intimacy is very important to the health of your relationship. So this episode is full of questions to spark communication with your boo!

DISCLAIMER: Make wise decisions. Podcasts episodes are not a form of clinical intervention, and they are not a substitute for therapy. Get in touch with a therapist in your area (United States, or Atlanta, GA) to receive professional sex therapy guidance.

If you are in a relationship, save this episode and play it when you're with your partner! Feel free to pause in between questions in order to give full time and space for response. Don't rush. If you are single, answer these questions for yourself! You'll get a head start on being able to communicate for your future relationship.

Questions

2:38 - What are the beliefs that you have about the way God sees you while you are having sex?

3:36 - What makes you embarrassed, ashamed, or self-conscious during sexual intimacy?

4:09 - What turns you off from sex? Be specific

4:47 - What were your first sexual development memories? Doesn't have to be associated with pleasure at all, but simply your growth as a human. What beliefs or thoughts came from these memories?

5:48 - Based on what you mentioned in the previous question, what surprised you about your response or your partner's? Do you want to know more about anything?

6:19 - How do you know when you are turned on? When you are first becoming open to sharing sexual intimacy

7:30 - What do you like to see/hear/or feel from your partner as a form of initiation?

8:41 - What is one hope that you have for your intimate life, or one affirmation that you have for your partner about why you love connecting sexually with them?

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Today, my primary focus as a licensed marriage and family therapist is in helping couples develop healthy communication and expectations around sexual intimacy. But trust me, I didn't start out being comfortable talking about sex with people.

If you feel uncomfortable discussing intimacy with your partner, or even seeing yourself as a sexual person, sex therapy is a great option for a safe space to explore your beliefs, your spirituality, and your desired intimate life.

Action Steps

• Book a complimentary consultation here
• Stay tuned for the next episode! I'll be walking you through sample questions to ask your partner about intimacy!

If you have experienced a change in your body - or maybe you were simply born into a body - that causes you to feel insecure about your femininity, this episode is for you.

Of course, what you see and hear each day can impact your view of self. And if you tend to compare yourself to others, that can only intensify the feelings of being "less than" or "not enough" of a woman.

Let's do something different. Let's find a version of femininity and sexuality that you can confidently embody - much like Mother Earth.

Action Steps

• Get out a journal! On one page, write all of the negative beliefs you have about your femininity. Take some time to explore where they came from, or when you first began to believe them.
• On another page, write out your strengths or the ways that you would like to celebrate your femininity

Need a counseling or coaching option? Book a free consultation with me here. Let's root out those negative beliefs and get you feeling like the queen that you are!

If you are looking to build trust in a new dating relationship, or rebuild trust in a long-term relationship or marriage, this is the formula you need!

Security = Consistency over time

Next Steps

For action-oriented guidance in your relationship, book a free 15-minute consultation with me! Let's talk about your needs and make it happen!

• Schedule here for dating coaching
• Schedule here for relationship coaching
• Schedule here for in-depth counseling for deeper issues (affair recovery, sexual issues, trauma, history of trust being broken etc.)

Don't need anything but want to say "hey"? Send me a DM on Instagram @myintimacytherapist !

"Follow your heart" seems like a popular mantra today. And, I get the allure... but what if you miss out on your deepest desires simply because your feelings held the steering wheel?

Follow on Instagram: @myintimacytherapist | @sadejovanne Ready for your personal dating coach? Book a free consultation here

This is a mindfulness meditation meant to boost your confidence. Save this for later and listen when you need a pick-me-up!

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Intimacy requires time to unfold. It needs to be discovered, explored. The problem is... true intimacy is incompatible with the instant gratification and mind-numbing nature of social media. You can't afford to let social media sabotage your intimate life, luv. This is a non-negotiable.

Next Steps

Are you having trouble getting to the "slow-down" of intimacy. I've got you. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation here and we will get to chat about how you can experience the best kind of intimacy.

Trust me. It's real!

If you want deeper, more meaningful content on your social media page, join me: For relationships: @myintimacytherapist For dating: @sadejovanne Every now and then, I post reminders to tell you to shut off your phone and try and intimacy activity with your partner!

As you know, I'm all about tying the sexual and spiritual together. Intimate, connected sex asks for a complete letting-go. That means no control, and a full state of release.

This episode explores how our sense of control and desire to be "polished" in other areas of our life - our faith, for example - can negatively impact our ability to let go during intimacy.

Come chat with me!

I'd love to hear your thoughts about the episode. Send me a direct message on Instagram @myintimacytherapist and let me know what parts of this episode stuck with you!

Looking for more? Let's work together! Schedule your free 15-minute consultation right now!

And, of course, the Intimacy Mindset Makeover audio course is a great way to change the way you think about your sex life! You can purchase the course here.

"I swear, you are so bipolar!" "My ex was such a narcissist." "I hate parties because I'm antisocial."

As a mental health professional, statements like these that are used casually and without proper information make me cringe. When we casually throw around diagnoses, we are harming our partners, painting false pictures of reality, and working against the movement of positive mental health.

Long story short: stop trying to diagnose your partner.

Please note: if you are in a relationship that has been harmful and abusive, please seek therapeutic support. Your experience is real, and the impact of abuse needs to be cared for in a safe, therapeutic context.

Next Steps:

As always, I'd love to work with you! If you are interested in counseling for your relationship (Georgia residents) or dating coaching (all are welcome), schedule a free consultation with me!

Looking for more mental health resources? Here are some of my favorite directories:

• Inclusive Therapists
• Psychology Today
• Therapy for Latinx
• Therapy for Black Girls

Our negative beliefs (also called "negative cognitions") have deep roots. Instead of fueling the fire by focusing on them, redirect your attention and anchor your thoughts in words that bring life!

Instagram: @myintimacytherapist | @sadejovanne Visit the website here!

When we focus on virginity or the "don't do this" of sexuality as a way to feel more worthy or more pure, we are completely missing the point. Completely.

If you are choosing a journey of waiting (whether it be until the right person, until marriage, etc.), or if you're curious about it... what is the point? I promise you... it's so much better than simply trying to get a gold medal for not being sexual.

Take Action!

• What were your thoughts about this episode? Would love to hear them! DM me on Instagram @myintimacytherapist.

• Need one-on-one coaching through your intimacy mindset? Apply for Coaching

It's possible to have great chemistry with someone as a dating partner... but not as a potential marriage partner.

If you're looking for a long-term relationship, this one special question has personally helped me discern if someone may be the right fit: "Who do they answer to?"

And, while you're asking that question about them, make sure that you know the answer to that question about yourself.

Next Steps:

If you're looking for clarity and direction in your dating life but don't know where to start, dating coaching is for you! Click here to schedule a free 15-minute consultation!

Remember to follow on Instagram @myintimacytherapist and @sadejovanne

If you're like me, conflict (or even uncertainty) can set your mind and body on FIRE! You want so badly to have answers, to have resolution, to return to peace...that you may make some questionable decisions in your anxious state.

This episode covers the "what to do" of navigating anxiety in relational conflict or uncertainty.

Next Steps:

1. Follow on Instagram @myintimacytherapist
2. If this episode jingles your bells or soothes your soul, I'd appreciate a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify!

Work with me! Need more action and one-on-one guidance to change your patterns? Book a consultation with me here! I'd love to work with you to reach the clarity and satisfaction that you desire.

Make sure to follow this podcast! Then, follow on Instagram @myintimacytherapist

Want more?

• Get the Intimacy Mindset Makeover course here
• Apply for dating coaching here

The original intent behind the Purity Culture movement, and my thoughts on what could have helped the movement create a better sexual-spiritual connection for our intimate lives.

Next Steps:

Dating? Go to sadejovanne.com/dating-coaching to book a complimentary consultation for dating coaching!

In a Relationship? Click here to purchase the Intimacy Mindset Makeover audio course.

If you were raised in Purity Culture, you know how the messages associated with the movement impacted your intimate life.

In this episode, we give a peak into the origins of Purity Culture, the hopeful intent behind the movement, and the consequences of not learning how to positively speak of sexuality and spirituality.

Your INVITATION:

• Journal out all the beliefs you have associated with your sexuality. What do you notice?

NEXT STEPS:

Dating and need help navigating sexuality?

• Book a short-term coaching package here: myintimacytherapist.com/dating-coaching

In a Relationship and struggling with embracing sexuality?

• Purchase the Intimacy Mindset Makeover audio course here: myintimacytherapist.com/radiant

Follow along on Instagram @myintimacytherapist or @sadejovanne Work with me: https://www.myintimacytherapist.com