WEBVTT 00:00.330 --> 00:00.926 You. 00:01.108 --> 00:03.006 Have you ever found yourself reaching for. 00:03.028 --> 00:17.630 That extra piece of cake, knowing full well you have weight loss goals? Or you're procrastinating on a project that the deadline is looming? It's probably due tomorrow. 00:18.370 --> 00:21.038 How about that expensive luxury item that. 00:21.044 --> 00:22.798 You just bought with a credit card? 00:22.964 --> 00:24.998 Even though you know you're at your. 00:25.044 --> 00:33.030 Max and you probably can't pay for it? It's a common experience, and yet it feels so paradoxical. 00:33.610 --> 00:39.814 Today we're exploring the science and psychology behind why we act against our better judgment. 00:39.942 --> 00:46.970 I'm Joe. My pal over there is Kurt. And we are dudes in progress. 00:57.250 --> 01:00.654 Hello, Kurt. Good Friday morning to you, my friend. 01:00.772 --> 01:17.254 It's Friday. Good morning, Joe. I'm taking the day off from work today. I just said the weather has been recovering from being horrible this first part of March, and now it's getting really nice. We were like, hit 60 yesterday, and I looked ahead, I talked about. 01:17.292 --> 01:22.710 I bought a bike recently, and I'm going bike riding today. 01:22.860 --> 01:24.150 Oh, good for you, man. 01:24.220 --> 01:27.894 So I'm excited. Yeah, I like taking that kind of. 01:28.012 --> 01:28.438 I don't know. 01:28.444 --> 01:33.850 It feels too early to be spring. I don't even want to say it out loud, but I got a feeling of spring fever. 01:34.190 --> 01:35.594 It feels good, doesn't it? 01:35.632 --> 01:37.366 Oh, boy, I love spring. 01:37.478 --> 01:47.038 I'm hearing some different bird songs out there. Yeah, the bears are waking up. I'm hearing in our neighborhood, we often have black bears come through. 01:47.124 --> 01:52.826 Last fall, the last thing I saw was mom and her two cubs. 01:52.858 --> 02:05.350 Now they're bigger cubs. They're big kids. They were up on my deck. I'm waiting for them to come. I hear through chatter that they are hungry right now. And they're wandering around. 02:05.420 --> 02:20.826 And we had a bobcat. Every once in a while, we're on the edge of really forests where I live. And this bobcat, he just wanders. My wife. It's interesting, my house cat will sit. 02:20.848 --> 02:22.506 On my wife's lap and see this. 02:22.528 --> 02:25.574 Bobcat coming from the front of the yard. 02:25.702 --> 02:30.714 And then she'll get her phone and she'll videotape. She got them going through the backyard. 02:30.762 --> 02:34.698 And they are gorgeous. What a beautiful animal. 02:34.874 --> 02:39.534 But it's fun to see the animals. Little bunny rabbits will be out soon, too. 02:39.572 --> 02:44.980 And, yeah, the spring flowers. I got some tulips that will start popping up. 02:46.470 --> 02:48.274 This is funny, Kurt, because hearing you. 02:48.312 --> 02:51.666 Talk, it feels like you live in. 02:51.688 --> 02:59.400 A remote mountain somewhere, right? The bears are waking up. The bobcats are coming out. The bunnies are hopping through. 03:01.050 --> 03:02.530 I love the wildlife. 03:02.690 --> 03:05.238 Glacial Kurt stone estate up in the. 03:05.244 --> 03:07.790 Mountains, there's some farmland. 03:07.970 --> 03:09.530 You live in a neighborhood, right? 03:09.600 --> 03:14.682 Yeah, that's right. There's houses all around, for sure. 03:14.736 --> 03:19.820 But bears like to eat people food, like deep people. 03:20.750 --> 03:22.090 No, they don't. Not. 03:22.160 --> 03:22.998 I know. I'm kidding. 03:23.014 --> 03:24.506 But they run from revenant. 03:24.618 --> 03:26.030 The movie the Revenant. 03:27.250 --> 03:30.634 I know what you're saying. There's a horrible scene in that movie. 03:30.682 --> 03:32.858 Just look up the bear attack scene in the revenant. 03:32.874 --> 03:35.694 No. Yeah, you won't be. 03:35.732 --> 03:38.094 So those are grizzlies. We don't have grizzlies. 03:38.222 --> 03:39.326 Bear's a bear, dude. 03:39.358 --> 03:40.226 I don't care. 03:40.408 --> 03:42.558 I'm afraid of Winnie the Pooh, dad. 03:42.734 --> 03:46.242 Mine run away when they smell me. I don't know if it's my scent. 03:46.306 --> 03:48.360 Well, a lot of people might do that. Anyway. 03:50.170 --> 03:51.446 We'Re going off. 03:51.628 --> 03:54.566 We are talking today, Kurt, about why. 03:54.588 --> 04:24.546 Do we do the things we don't want to do. I was reading a bible verse, and it's a pretty well known bible verse. If you have a faith bent, you'll understand this. But even if you don't, even if faith is not your thing, Christianity is not your thing, you'll understand what this verse is saying. You may not agree with everything in it, but you'll understand this verse. And I just want to read this verse to you, and we'll talk about this a little bit. Not necessarily the verse, but just about this idea, because I did a little bit of research into why we do. 04:24.568 --> 04:26.210 The things we don't want to do. 04:26.360 --> 04:33.170 This comes from the Christian bible, Romans 715 through 20. I'm reading from the new living translation. 04:33.750 --> 05:06.510 I don't really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead, I do what I hate. But if I know that what I am doing is wrong, this shows that I agree that the law is good. So I am not the one doing wrong. It is sin living in me that does it, and I know that nothing good lives in me that is in my sinful nature. I want to do what is right, but I can't. I want to do what is good, but I don't. 05:07.090 --> 05:09.280 I don't want to do but what is wrong. 05:09.890 --> 05:11.360 But I do it anyway. 05:12.450 --> 05:15.266 But if I do what I don't want to do, I am not really. 05:15.288 --> 05:27.346 The one doing wrong. It is sin living in me that does it. Now, I love that verse. There's a lot of things I love about that verse, because it really speaks. 05:27.378 --> 05:28.694 To the human nature, right? 05:28.732 --> 05:31.446 It really speaks to what's inside of. 05:31.468 --> 05:33.206 Us and what's grinding inside of us. 05:33.228 --> 05:38.040 And the hypocrisy that lives in us now. 05:39.210 --> 05:43.914 I don't want to do a whole Bible study on this verse, because there's some things in this verse that at. 05:43.952 --> 05:46.218 First blush, you're like. 05:46.384 --> 05:59.482 It doesn't sound a lot like personal responsibility if you're saying that you're not the one that's doing it. It's the sin living in you that's doing it. There's some stuff there. But in short, this is written by the apostle Paul, who wrote most of the New Testament. 05:59.546 --> 06:02.880 And in short, what he's saying there is. 06:04.690 --> 06:22.040 I don't do what I want to do. I don't do what is right, but I want to do what is right. What do I do? The things that are bad for me. Why do I do the things that are wrong even though I know they're wrong? Why is this whole battle within me? And my gosh, dude, do I relate to that? 06:23.370 --> 06:26.390 It is one of my favorite parts. 06:27.050 --> 06:30.666 The favorite quote, but the whole theme that he's talking about and that it. 06:30.688 --> 06:38.490 Comes from Paul, the person you would never expect it to come from. That's what's so inspiring about it. 06:38.640 --> 06:39.146 Right? 06:39.248 --> 06:42.126 Because everyone struggles with this, and to. 06:42.148 --> 06:51.360 Hear him supposed to be the model Christian, and he's so in your face. 06:52.390 --> 06:55.554 Going out and talking to people, bring. 06:55.592 --> 07:04.482 Them into this faith, and he's admitting to this struggle that we have, it's very inspiring, I find. 07:04.616 --> 07:11.762 Yeah, it's a great. I knew this is what inspired this. Know, it's getting close to Easter. 07:11.826 --> 07:40.446 Maybe that's why it's so funny, Kurt, that you bring. It's getting close to Easter because this inspired the episode. And the three handfuls of jelly beans that I ate last night inspired this episode. My wife. This is a true story. It's 830 at night, and we've bought all the candy and stuff for the grandkids baskets, and we go crazy on that. Of course we do, right? Yeah, we bought all the candy, and. 07:40.468 --> 07:51.186 I looked down into the container that we have, the kids, the grandkids Easter candy, and I looked down into that bin, and I said, honey, we're going. 07:51.208 --> 07:53.490 To need to buy more jelly beans. 07:54.070 --> 07:55.958 Because we've gone through them. 07:56.124 --> 07:57.400 What do you mean we? 07:59.290 --> 08:03.080 Well, come to find out, she had her fair share as well. 08:05.210 --> 08:06.566 Truth be told. 08:06.748 --> 08:23.374 I'm certain I had more. Certain I had more. But this really gets me thinking, why don't we do what we know is right to do? Why is that just not automatic and why do we do the things that we don't want to do? 08:23.492 --> 08:24.862 Why do we grab that? 08:24.996 --> 08:30.970 I mean, I know when I have that handful of jelly beans in my hand in that moment, I'm not unconscious. 08:31.050 --> 08:31.486 Right. 08:31.588 --> 08:32.240 Right. 08:33.010 --> 08:46.900 I know that this is probably not a good thing. This is going to give me heartburn to. It's going to explode my calorie count for the day. It's going to triple it. Just one single handful. Right? 08:47.670 --> 08:49.010 What is that? 08:49.160 --> 08:50.420 What is that? 08:50.730 --> 08:52.822 Do you have a thing that you. 08:52.876 --> 08:55.734 Do or some things that you do that you know you shouldn't do? 08:55.772 --> 08:58.854 Kurt, you gave me this question last. 08:58.892 --> 09:00.726 Night, and I was going to say. 09:00.748 --> 09:08.410 Okay, I'm going to get up in the morning and think about this. And I was struggling to think about it at first. Luckily, we keep our notes out there. 09:08.480 --> 09:14.094 In our Google Drive, and I saw your intro, and it helped me because. 09:14.212 --> 09:15.418 I'm a binge eater. 09:15.514 --> 09:17.600 That jelly bean story is me. 09:19.570 --> 09:23.346 I am a binge eater. And even candy like that. And I don't eat it, like, all. 09:23.368 --> 09:37.110 The time, but I can't just have a handful either. It's horrible. That binge eating problem that I have. Chips are another. Like a bag of chips. 09:37.610 --> 09:39.960 Nobody can go through a bag of chips like me. 09:44.490 --> 09:51.562 It's okay to laugh about it and giggle about it. We're not making fun necessarily, but it is something that we all have, right? 09:51.696 --> 09:53.580 Yeah, for sure. 09:54.190 --> 10:07.086 Now, maybe it's not all of maybe. We certainly know those people that have a high amount of discipline and a high amount of ability to push temptation aside. And I really have a lot of. 10:07.108 --> 10:10.186 Respect for people like that, but it's. 10:10.218 --> 10:14.320 A struggle for me. But when you talk to people like that, it's a struggle for them as well. 10:14.770 --> 10:17.442 I'm very excited to hear you teach. 10:17.496 --> 10:21.140 Me how I can not do those things. 10:21.510 --> 10:22.898 Well, I'm not sure we're going to. 10:22.904 --> 10:26.934 Go down that road quite yet how not to do them, but we're just going to talk about them, right? 10:27.052 --> 10:28.934 You're not going to solve this for me. 10:29.132 --> 10:30.982 I'm not sure we're going to solve it. 10:31.116 --> 10:36.742 But this might be a multi show subject, right. 10:36.796 --> 10:37.400 Okay. 10:37.770 --> 10:46.682 Where we take it down a path and we realize that, man, this is bigger than what we have right now in 45 minutes to an hour. 10:46.736 --> 10:51.110 But I did look into this subject. 10:51.190 --> 10:58.720 A lot over the past few days when I realized that, yeah, this is the subject that I want to discuss in this show. 10:59.490 --> 11:02.426 And I found five things, and there's. 11:02.458 --> 11:06.450 One particular thing that I really want to dig into. 11:06.520 --> 11:09.214 If we can, we can dig deep. 11:09.262 --> 11:19.830 Into each of these five things, and there's probably more than these five, but these five really capture, I think, the essence of what happens here. The first one is instant gratification. 11:20.170 --> 11:21.800 We all know what this is. 11:23.210 --> 11:34.182 We have a tendency over immediate rewards versus future benefits. We just can't see beyond ourselves for some reason. We can't see beyond those jelly beans. 11:34.326 --> 11:34.778 Right? 11:34.864 --> 11:35.162 Yeah. 11:35.216 --> 11:38.954 We like to do things that make us happy. 11:39.152 --> 11:39.900 Right. 11:40.750 --> 11:42.106 This is the biggest one, and this. 11:42.128 --> 12:04.606 Is the one that I'd really like to flesh out and talk about if we can. But there's also something called dual process theory, and this is just where we have those two brains. We've talked about mindfulness meditation, Kurt, and we have the monkey brain, right? The monkey brain that just can't control itself. And then that's the older brain. 12:04.638 --> 12:10.886 That's the older brain that just wants survival. It's a psychological concept that tells us. 12:10.908 --> 12:27.514 That our brain operates in two systems, the impulsive, emotional and a rational, logical system that leads to these conflicts. So there's that dual process theory, and that's ancient. That's our ancient brain that's ingrained in us. And I'm not sure we can do. 12:27.552 --> 12:29.020 A lot about that. 12:29.710 --> 12:33.806 It's there. What we can do about it is know it's there and know that we. 12:33.828 --> 12:35.902 Have to battle against it. 12:36.036 --> 12:37.806 But I'm not certain we're going to. 12:37.828 --> 12:42.160 Change the physiological nature of our brains. Maybe. 12:42.610 --> 12:46.202 I'm picturing the devil and the angel on my shoulder right now, Joe. 12:46.346 --> 12:49.810 That's right. A great. That's a great analogy. That's perfect. 12:49.880 --> 12:51.780 Remember from Animal House? 12:52.390 --> 13:00.934 Oh, yeah, from animal House. Remember the cartoons with devil and the angel in the cartoons as well? I think Tom and Jerry was famous for that. 13:00.972 --> 13:02.530 This is not a new concept. 13:02.690 --> 13:03.400 Right. 13:03.930 --> 13:21.802 Also, stress and decision making. High stress levels can impair our ability to make rational decisions, pushing us towards choices that provide immediate relief or distraction. I know this when I'm in a highly stressful situation, I want to just get it over with. 13:21.856 --> 13:23.674 I want to be done with it. Right. 13:23.792 --> 13:30.238 Whatever I'm doing, I want to be finished with it. When I'm in a high stress situation, I just want to be done with it. 13:30.244 --> 13:33.486 And often that leads to poor decisions. 13:33.598 --> 13:39.460 Because I want to be done with it. I want immediate relief and distraction from the situation. 13:40.470 --> 13:48.360 Does that lead to binge eating? Some people often talk about stress eating causing. I don't know that I have that problem. 13:49.690 --> 13:52.274 I think you've talked about this stress eating. 13:52.322 --> 13:55.206 Yeah, I certainly do. 13:55.388 --> 13:57.678 I always say that the worst decisions. 13:57.714 --> 14:03.606 Are made out of desperation. If you're in a desperate situation, that's. 14:03.638 --> 14:05.430 The worst time to make a decision. 14:05.590 --> 14:06.300 Yeah. 14:06.910 --> 14:13.918 The longer time you can put into making this decision, I mean, there's a diminishing return at some point, but if. 14:13.924 --> 14:20.350 You have more time to make a decision, you're better off and you're probably going to make a better decision. 14:20.690 --> 14:22.666 Now, there is a book by Malcolm Gladwell. 14:22.698 --> 14:24.606 Are you familiar with Malcolm Gladwell, Kurt? 14:24.718 --> 14:26.610 Yes, he's quite profound. 14:27.430 --> 14:47.586 I love his stuff. I mean, he's written the bomber mafia recently, David and Goliath. But his big start came with a book called Outliers. That's where that 10,000 hours theory comes from, where the real experts. If you're an expert in anything, you've probably put about 10,000 hours into it. But he also wrote a book called. 14:47.628 --> 14:51.434 Blank about decision making and how high. 14:51.472 --> 15:11.150 Performing leaders make decisions. And many of those high performing leaders make fast decisions. They trust their intuition and they make quick decisions. But the decisions are rarely made under stressful situations. They remove themselves from the stressful situation and then they make the quick decision. 15:12.850 --> 15:14.850 Given certain circumstances. 15:15.350 --> 15:25.602 Sometimes that fastest decision is the best decision, as long as it's not in a stressful situation. That's my whole point. So there's also the fear of missing out. 15:25.736 --> 15:27.240 We all have this. 15:27.610 --> 15:32.918 We all make decisions because we think that we're going to miss out on a good opportunity. 15:33.084 --> 15:33.798 Yeah. 15:33.964 --> 15:40.102 You mean I take that extra bowl of chili because I don't want to miss out on any. 15:40.236 --> 15:45.722 It was so good the first time, I don't want to miss it the second time. Is that why I do it? I think so. 15:45.776 --> 15:59.520 Exactly right. There is some truth to that, though, if we can relate it to eating, because that seems to be the subject of the day. Right. We started with jelly beans, and we're into chili and chips and everything else, but. 16:01.330 --> 16:03.310 When we eat in a social. 16:03.380 --> 16:05.300 Situation, I'll just speak for myself. 16:05.670 --> 16:12.162 You go out to dinner and you feel like if you don't have the. 16:12.216 --> 16:19.910 Great thing on the menu, the one that everybody's recommending instead of the salad or instead of the lean meat, instead of the chicken and broccoli. Right. 16:19.980 --> 16:20.310 Yeah. 16:20.380 --> 16:28.280 You feel like you're going to. I'm in this situation. When's the next time I'm going to be in this restaurant? I'm just going to try this. 16:28.810 --> 16:31.938 Absolutely. I don't go out to eat that. 16:31.964 --> 16:36.026 Much, so when I do, I really want to get what I want to get. 16:36.128 --> 16:43.710 And it's not a salad, I can tell you, most of the time, or something necessarily healthy, if that's the comparison we're making. 16:43.860 --> 16:48.880 Yeah. If an opportunity comes your way and. 16:50.850 --> 17:04.446 You feel like you're going to miss out on the opportunity, so you don't take a step back. And we're talking a lot about decision making and proper decision making here, and that's appropriate. But when we talk about the fear. 17:04.478 --> 17:07.314 Of missing out, it's also an investment. 17:07.362 --> 17:08.520 Might come your way. 17:10.330 --> 17:14.338 That your gut tells you, I don't know, but you're. 17:14.354 --> 17:15.894 Afraid of missing out on this big. 17:15.932 --> 17:22.666 Opportunity, and so you do it anyway. And you kind of feel like as. 17:22.688 --> 17:26.314 You'Re doing it, it's against your better judgment, but you have this fear of. 17:26.352 --> 17:27.706 Missing out on it. 17:27.888 --> 17:33.326 I've been looking at educational seminars or. 17:33.428 --> 17:36.526 Yeah, going to a conference, and I. 17:36.548 --> 17:39.566 Get that feeling there's one that you. 17:39.588 --> 17:41.966 And I have talked about. I feel like I'm missing out on. 17:41.988 --> 17:48.594 That one, but I don't know it's the right one either. So that's why I'm not making a. 17:48.632 --> 17:54.366 Decision to go to that one in particular. So I'm looking for the one that's going to be the right one that's. 17:54.398 --> 17:57.160 Going to move me in the direction I want to go. 17:58.890 --> 18:01.190 And then we have the power of habits. 18:02.810 --> 18:05.414 We've talked a lot about habits, but. 18:05.452 --> 18:10.054 Sometimes our habits can go against us. 18:10.252 --> 18:17.834 Sometimes. Most of the time we're in. I would venture to say that most of the time we're in some pretty bad habits and we don't know it. 18:17.952 --> 18:18.234 Sure. 18:18.272 --> 18:38.020 That this is a habitual behavior that we have to grab the jelly beans or habitual behavior that we have to grab those chips or to make that decision. I have a terrible habit of when I'm in a stressful situation at work, when my brain is really being text. 18:38.950 --> 18:40.434 I want to grab my phone and. 18:40.472 --> 18:41.698 Look at a YouTube video. 18:41.784 --> 18:43.700 Now, how weird is that, right? 18:44.070 --> 18:45.766 And I know in the moment that. 18:45.788 --> 18:48.486 I shouldn't be doing it, but the. 18:48.508 --> 18:57.538 Habit drove me to that. It's funny, we can talk about habits a lot, right? The habit drove me to grabbing. 18:57.714 --> 19:05.450 The stressful situation leads me to my phone, I get that dopamine hit, and now I'm hooked, right? 19:05.600 --> 19:06.300 Yeah. 19:07.630 --> 19:10.338 I'm thinking of pain and pleasure. 19:10.534 --> 19:11.280 Right. 19:11.730 --> 19:15.390 There's a Tony Robbins saying going through my head. 19:15.540 --> 19:22.080 Because we tend to look towards pleasure to satisfy that. 19:22.850 --> 19:24.720 Right? Right. 19:25.030 --> 19:46.246 So instant gratification, dual process theory where our brains are conflicted against ourselves, stress and decision making fear of missing out and the power of habits. So I really want to talk about instant gratification, Kurt. Where does this thing come from? Is it all in our heads? I mean, is it part of that. 19:46.268 --> 19:50.650 Old, ancient brain as well, like the dual mind theory? 19:51.310 --> 20:14.190 Where does instant gratification comes from? I know that you shared with me that when you're doing something you don't want to do and you're not doing something you know you should be doing in that whole dichotomy, mine is eating as well, and it is about instant gratification. It is getting that feeling right now that I want to fill whatever need. 20:14.340 --> 20:16.498 Is in me right now. 20:16.664 --> 20:30.040 And where does this idea of instant gratification comes from? It is all in our heads, Kurt. I mean, our brains are literally wired for survival. We favor these immediate rewards at one time or another. 20:30.410 --> 20:33.430 In our history, it was life or death, right? 20:33.500 --> 20:34.022 Yeah. 20:34.156 --> 20:48.058 We had to grab that fruit right now or catch that fish right now because there was no guarantee of future meals. There was no guarantee of having this in these. 20:48.224 --> 20:50.126 When the stakes are different, I guess. 20:50.148 --> 20:56.206 You would say choosing between going on YouTube on a YouTube short or a. 20:56.228 --> 21:02.270 Facebook video versus finishing the presentation that's due tomorrow. 21:02.790 --> 21:37.974 Our brains still love that immediate dopamine rush. It's that feel, you know, dopamine, that feel good chemical that rewards us for making bad decisions. Not necessarily. I mean, if we can use that dopamine rush for good decisions, we can. But so often we use it for bad decisions. So what is the deal? What is the deal with our brains and this preference? Of course, we have the whole prefrontal cortex issue that we talked about before that leads us to lack of impulse. 21:38.022 --> 21:42.358 Control and gets overruled in the heat of the moment. 21:42.544 --> 21:44.586 And like you said, it's that angel. 21:44.618 --> 21:49.786 And devil on our shoulders. And sometimes the devil just has the megaphone. 21:49.818 --> 21:52.414 So what do you think we can do about this? 21:52.532 --> 22:00.900 I was going to say recognize that we've got this problem seems to be a common theme in psychology that we've read and talked about. 22:01.270 --> 22:03.554 First thing you got to do is. 22:03.592 --> 22:08.646 Recognize there is a problem, and you're bringing it out right now. And while you're talking, I'll just add. 22:08.668 --> 22:10.598 Another one, which, I don't know if. 22:10.604 --> 22:12.054 You'D be surprised that I have this. 22:12.092 --> 22:17.800 One, but I get something in my head that I want to buy, and. 22:18.890 --> 22:22.202 It'S not in the store, or I want it to be in the store. 22:22.256 --> 22:23.734 Which is right down the street. 22:23.862 --> 22:25.242 Walmart's right here. 22:25.376 --> 22:28.842 Target. And yet I can find a better. 22:28.896 --> 22:32.250 Price or maybe even a better item on Amazon. 22:32.410 --> 22:43.200 And would you believe I'm not even patient enough to want to wait one day? I'd rather go up to Walmart and get it. 22:44.870 --> 22:46.402 What is all that about? 22:46.536 --> 22:50.450 But I don't know. That is funny. That's pretty funny. 22:51.030 --> 22:55.700 That just shows you how bad I have this problem. 22:58.070 --> 23:07.960 You'll spend $10 more to go up to Walmart and you'll spend $10 more, get in your car, drive to Walmart, and deal with all the dynamics of going to a Walmart. Right? 23:08.330 --> 23:17.446 Go to Walmart, get the item, drive back, spend $10 more just because you didn't want to wait one day. Isn't that funny? 23:17.558 --> 23:17.834 But. 23:17.872 --> 23:19.322 Yeah, I know what you mean, man. 23:19.376 --> 23:22.878 Yeah. Recognize. I have that problem. 23:22.964 --> 23:28.080 We all have this problem. And that's the first thing for working on it. 23:28.850 --> 23:29.646 Absolutely. 23:29.828 --> 23:36.446 Also, if you can get yourself into the habit of. Before you make a decision, just pause. 23:36.478 --> 23:48.946 For whatever period of time. Honestly, this works for me. When I go to grab those jelly beans, if I would just say, I'm going to wait 10 seconds, I'm just. 23:48.968 --> 23:50.450 Going to wait 10 seconds. 23:50.610 --> 23:51.174 Yeah. 23:51.292 --> 23:54.866 And if after 10 seconds, I still want a handful of jelly beans, I'll. 23:54.898 --> 24:02.182 Get a handful of jelly beans. But I'm just going to wait 10 seconds. And sometimes I'll count these little weird little tricks. 24:02.246 --> 24:04.138 And believe me, Kurt, I use them. 24:04.224 --> 24:10.060 I use these weird little tricks, and most of the time they work really well. 24:10.510 --> 24:16.298 I just heard this on a podcast recently. I heard this on a podcast recently. 24:16.474 --> 24:21.006 It's a five second rule, not 10 seconds. And there's some. 24:21.108 --> 24:29.934 She goes into a bunch of the psychology around counting to five. And that seems to break this in your brain. 24:30.062 --> 24:38.114 I think what happens is it gives that new brain a chance to kick. 24:38.162 --> 24:41.042 In, say, hold on, logical. 24:41.186 --> 24:44.790 Hold on. That may not be the best thing for you. 24:44.860 --> 24:47.602 Right? That's a good little trick. 24:47.746 --> 25:12.906 Yeah, just wait 5 seconds. And the trick to this is not to deny yourself whatever you want to do. Not to deny yourself going up to the store to buy that drill or to grab those jelly beans or to go to that YouTube video or whatever it might be, right? Not to deny yourself that. Because if you go into it knowing. 25:12.938 --> 25:15.600 You'Re going to deny yourself, you probably won't do it. 25:15.910 --> 25:19.986 But just say, I'm going to wait 10 seconds. After 10 seconds, if I decide I. 25:20.008 --> 25:22.980 Still want to do that. Okay, we'll see what happens. 25:23.590 --> 25:30.070 Now, whatever your time is, I've heard 10 seconds. I mean, depending on the purchase, you may want to wait ten days, right? 25:30.140 --> 25:31.926 Yeah. Right. 25:32.028 --> 25:33.110 I'm talking little things. 25:33.180 --> 25:33.558 Really? 25:33.644 --> 25:34.280 Yeah. 25:34.650 --> 25:41.020 If you're going to buy a $50,000 truck, right? And you're caught up in the moment. 25:41.710 --> 25:49.366 And the funny thing is, this is the whole idea behind this. When we're in the moment, we know we're in the moment, we know we're. 25:49.398 --> 26:10.386 Caught up in this thing. And there is that voice inside us saying, you better take a step back. But we just don't want to. We want that truck. We want that thing. I listen to the minimalists a lot, Kurt, and they do talk about these levels of purchases. If it's a purchase of $100 or. 26:10.408 --> 26:14.338 More, he waits ten days or something like that. 26:14.424 --> 26:16.838 If it's a purchase or whatever it might be. 26:16.924 --> 26:23.814 If it's a purchase of x amount, he waits for ten minutes, whatever it might be. 26:23.932 --> 26:28.410 So if you can put these little roles, these little rules in place, that. 26:28.560 --> 26:37.146 Will help you delay that reward, delay that decision, that can certainly help. 26:37.328 --> 26:38.650 I like that idea. 26:38.800 --> 26:39.066 Yeah. 26:39.088 --> 26:45.040 I think it's funny how these little tricks really can make a big difference if you implement them. 26:46.450 --> 27:00.114 Also, I like the idea of mindfulness decision making. This is part of the same thing. But you have to practice mindfulness in advance. When you pause to concentrate, take some time every day just to pause and. 27:00.152 --> 27:03.490 Concentrate on something intentionally. 27:03.910 --> 27:19.094 A lot of times, mindfulness, we talk about mindfulness being mindfulness meditation, but it's just taking a few minutes to pause on your breathing. You may find a spot on the wall, a neutral spot on the wall that, hey, I'm just going to take. 27:19.212 --> 27:21.794 Five minutes right now and just stare. 27:21.842 --> 27:25.660 At this spot on the wall. And I'm not going to let anything else distract me. 27:26.270 --> 27:28.038 And it will distract you, but you're. 27:28.054 --> 27:34.330 Going to bring yourself back. If you can practice that, this ability. 27:34.410 --> 27:39.114 To delay the reward, to delay instant. 27:39.162 --> 27:47.022 Gratification will certainly that muscle, you're building that muscle intentionally. So I like this idea of mindfulness. 27:47.086 --> 27:50.738 Decision making and practicing that in a. 27:50.744 --> 28:28.880 Safe environment in advance because that's what you're doing when you're practicing mindfulness meditation. And I don't want to get all weird and woo woo. We've talked a lot about mindfulness meditation here, and it's a practice that I do, but it's just the idea of intentionally building that muscle to focus on something that you know that is the right thing to focus on, that you're doing it intentionally and not just being pulled from left to right on the whim of the day or the whim of the moment. So practice mindfulness decision making, mindfulness meditation, mindfulness focus. 28:29.410 --> 28:29.726 Yeah. 28:29.748 --> 28:31.726 And as you're saying that related to. 28:31.748 --> 28:40.050 That for me is taking pleasure in quiet moments, that gratitude feeling. 28:41.190 --> 28:43.218 We were just talking about going outside. 28:43.304 --> 28:55.410 Now that it's springtime and really enjoying nature and slowing down and listen for the birds. 28:55.570 --> 28:56.786 I'm going to go take my bike. 28:56.818 --> 28:59.514 Ride along the Farmington river and just. 28:59.552 --> 29:03.306 Sit there and listen to the water and the river go through. 29:03.408 --> 29:07.306 It's really a gorgeous place to go. 29:07.408 --> 29:08.730 Some peacefulness. 29:09.470 --> 29:13.398 And it's an inexpensive, enjoyable. 29:13.574 --> 29:15.278 I got my heart rate going up too. 29:15.364 --> 29:23.040 It's just a really enjoyable experience and it was good for me. And take pleasure in those things, too. 29:23.430 --> 29:25.730 You don't have to take that extra. 29:25.800 --> 29:28.610 Piece of pie to get pleasure. 29:29.030 --> 29:30.820 Enjoy the simple things. 29:31.270 --> 29:36.454 Absolutely. Enjoy the simple things. And the final thing that I'll say. 29:36.492 --> 29:39.400 Is remember to celebrate when you win. 29:40.330 --> 29:53.354 Remember to celebrate when you do make that good decision. When you do walk away from that bag of jelly beans. When you do walk away from. May not. I may order this from Amazon away. 29:53.392 --> 29:55.866 Today or I may not order it at all. 29:56.048 --> 30:04.338 Celebrate that moment knowing that you made a good decision. You delayed your gratification. Give yourself a little hand clap. 30:04.374 --> 30:09.322 Give yourself a little high five. I know it sounds weird and I know it sounds awkward. 30:09.466 --> 30:11.086 And guys, I don't think we like. 30:11.108 --> 30:15.886 To do this a lot, but when we celebrate our wins, even internally, to. 30:15.908 --> 30:26.360 Say, to give ourselves a little attaboy, just a little small one. It's okay, guys. We can do this. We can give ourselves a little pat on the back and not have to break our arm off, right? 30:27.530 --> 30:29.894 Just a little attaboy and celebrate that win. 30:29.932 --> 30:35.830 Because that reinforces this ability to delay gratification. 30:36.170 --> 30:39.750 So remember to celebrate your wins. 30:40.650 --> 30:50.554 Understanding instant gratification, that's what we talked about, primarily about this idea of not doing what we want to do and doing what we don't want to do and all of that doing what we. 30:50.592 --> 30:53.950 Know is wrong and not doing what we know is right. 30:54.100 --> 30:57.210 Understanding that whole thing. We talked a lot about instant gratification. 30:57.290 --> 31:02.430 But it's not about demonizing our desires or immediate pleasure. 31:02.930 --> 31:05.122 Sometimes pleasure can be immediate, right? 31:05.176 --> 31:07.266 Sometimes pleasure can be. 31:07.448 --> 31:44.042 We don't have to be completely stoic all the time and deny ourselves. But it's more about recognizing that these desires might be holding us back from really achieving our long term goals and our happiness, our true happiness, not just that dopamine hit right now, but our true happiness and the things that are going to make our life happier long term. By being mindful of our choices and implementing strategies to manage these innate tendencies, we can really find a balance, Kurt, that allows us for both immediate joys allows for both immediate joys and future successes. 31:44.106 --> 31:54.706 So I guess the next time we're faced with that choice between now and later, remember that we really do have that power. We do have that power. 31:54.808 --> 32:02.274 And we have that ability to delay gratification and to set it aside. And we can build that muscle and. 32:02.312 --> 32:04.494 We can build those tools. 32:04.622 --> 32:18.646 You gave some great strategies. I didn't think you said you weren't going to help me. I think you have helped me with this. And I really like the one to celebrate, too, because I think we're hard on ourselves. We talked about self care, and one of the things we do is beat. 32:18.678 --> 32:22.234 Up ourselves too much and not look. 32:22.272 --> 32:24.314 At the positive side of ourselves and. 32:24.352 --> 32:25.914 The things that we do. 32:26.032 --> 32:26.650 Right. 32:26.800 --> 32:40.014 And especially when we're caught in this situation you're talking about to celebrate that. I didn't think about doing that, but thank you. Joe, once again, could you just talk. 32:40.052 --> 32:43.374 About those three strategies you just gave me? They were great ones. 32:43.412 --> 32:45.202 I'd like to hear them over again. 32:45.336 --> 32:45.970 Yeah. 32:46.120 --> 32:47.346 The first thing that we did is. 32:47.368 --> 32:54.718 We will delay the reward, right? Practice some kind of x minute rule or ten second rule or ten minute. 32:54.734 --> 33:05.190 Rule or ten day rule, right? Delay that reward intentionally. Do it. Don't deny yourself. Just delay it for a very short period of time. A period of time that your mind. 33:05.260 --> 33:08.074 Won'T resist, whatever that might be. 33:08.112 --> 33:20.122 I think a ten second rule or a 1 minute rule is really good because that's short enough to kind of fool your mind, that old mind, into. 33:20.256 --> 33:22.106 Thinking you're still going to get it. 33:22.208 --> 33:25.774 But it also gives the new mind time to kick in and say, no. 33:25.812 --> 33:27.546 You probably better not, Joe. 33:27.658 --> 33:29.006 So I could buy that thing on. 33:29.028 --> 33:33.022 Amazon that is two day delivery instead. 33:33.076 --> 33:38.066 Of one day, right? I don't have to make that choice between the one day, two day thing. 33:38.168 --> 33:40.820 I could wait two days, right? 33:41.190 --> 33:42.642 Or not buy it at all, right? 33:42.696 --> 33:44.820 Oh, okay. No, you said I could buy it. 33:46.490 --> 33:52.646 You're kind of lying to your old mind about buying it until your new mind can kick in and stop the process. Right? 33:52.668 --> 33:54.040 Because I do that, too. 33:58.810 --> 34:08.486 Part of this is laziness for me. I can't tell you how many times I've bought something that I know that I have just because I'm too lazy to go to dig through the boxes. 34:08.518 --> 34:09.834 To go look for it. 34:10.032 --> 34:18.490 Somehow it seems easier to spend $30 on whatever it is that I'm going to buy digging through the closet knowing that it's in there somewhere. 34:18.570 --> 34:19.582 It's so true. 34:19.716 --> 34:22.058 What was number two before I forget? 34:22.234 --> 34:33.874 Mindfulness. Be mindful about your practice. Mindfulness, not in a weird woo woo sense. I mean, if you want to go weird woo woo, God bless you for it. But just on a regular basis, build. 34:33.912 --> 34:38.754 That ability to shift your mind to. 34:38.792 --> 34:59.466 Think about something that you know is right to think about. And the best way to do that, I think, is through mindfulness meditation. But if you just want to pause for five minutes a day and look at a spot on the wall, a neutral spot on the wall, and say, for the next five minutes, all I'm going to do is purposefully, intentionally look at this spot on the wall and. 34:59.488 --> 35:02.110 You'Ll be surprised how that muscle builds. 35:03.010 --> 35:05.440 And then finally, just celebrate the win. 35:05.810 --> 35:09.626 When you do win over this battle. 35:09.658 --> 35:18.002 For instant gratification, give yourself a high five. Give yourself an atta boy. Tell somebody else about it. 35:18.136 --> 35:26.580 Listen, I didn't grab those jelly beans today, right? Just celebrate that win. Give yourself an atta boy. 35:29.110 --> 35:31.282 I think you should celebrate this episode. 35:31.346 --> 35:32.886 Because before we started recording, you told. 35:32.908 --> 35:35.350 Me you didn't feel like you were ready this morning. 35:35.420 --> 35:38.762 We've had a rough week and you felt you weren't ready to present. 35:38.816 --> 35:42.266 And isn't it amazing, the knowledge you. 35:42.288 --> 35:46.010 Have that you didn't know you had? And it comes out when we record our podcast. 35:46.590 --> 35:47.580 It is. 35:47.950 --> 35:54.622 And it is years of studying this stuff. It's years of studying personal development, what. 35:54.676 --> 35:59.806 Drives us, what moves us forward, how do we build a better life? 35:59.988 --> 36:14.606 And all these strategies are kind of there, right? There is nothing new under the sun. Another Bible reference. But, yeah, sometimes it takes some prompting to dig it out and bring it forward. But thanks for that, Kurt. 36:14.798 --> 36:19.560 I appreciate the compliment. What's your win for the week? 36:20.250 --> 36:22.802 Yeah, remember I was talking about buying a bike? 36:22.866 --> 36:27.954 I got over at Target, an impulse buy, because it was marked. 36:28.082 --> 36:36.406 Well, I got it the next day. It was $104, marked off for $350. And it's a little cruiser bike with seven speeds. 36:36.518 --> 36:38.474 But I was looking for a nice. 36:38.592 --> 36:46.046 Day, and it was 50 degrees on Wednesday. I got out after work, went down to this nice. 36:46.148 --> 36:47.546 You know how they have these bike. 36:47.658 --> 36:53.406 Paths or walking paths? We have one across around the Farmington river, and I never have been on it. 36:53.588 --> 36:56.354 And you always say, go as far. 36:56.392 --> 37:00.306 As you can see. I was thinking about you, Joe, because I started going down the road, and. 37:00.328 --> 37:15.622 I know the car or the road that drives along this path quite well. It's on my way to Hartford, and this bike path goes along the way. I said I want to keep going. 37:15.676 --> 37:26.102 And sometimes you can't see around the bend, but I don't know how far this bike ride is, and I don't know if I'm going to be able to get back and how exhausted I'm going to be, but I'm going to go as far as I can see and then see what's behind that. 37:26.156 --> 37:33.454 And I was really surprised. I was able to get that farthest part in the road and then make. 37:33.492 --> 37:36.670 My way back, and I really rode for, like, an hour. 37:36.740 --> 37:40.266 It was fantastic, and it was nice and flat. 37:40.298 --> 37:44.142 I didn't even realize sometimes when I was going uphill or downhill, it was that nice. 37:44.196 --> 37:45.840 So I'm going to do that again today. 37:46.450 --> 37:52.482 I love road biking. I do. And there was a time that I did it every single day for a few miles a day. 37:52.536 --> 37:52.802 Wow. 37:52.856 --> 37:57.826 And then I would take a weekend and do a really long one. I think the longest bike ride I've. 37:57.858 --> 38:00.550 Done is probably 26 miles. 38:01.690 --> 38:04.086 But I love road biking, man. 38:04.188 --> 38:06.274 Love it so much that I don't do it anymore. 38:06.402 --> 38:07.960 What was your win for the week? 38:08.350 --> 38:52.440 I had another big presentation in front of the executive team at work. This was. This was an interesting presentation, Kurt, because this was an overview, a complete overview of the last six months impact that my team has made on the organization. So I had to really kind of dig deep and say what we did, how we did, what was the financial impact, what was the organizational development impact, what was the revenue impact, the impact to our gross margins? And we really had to kind of dig deep into this, and I had to pull from several resources to put this together. 38:52.810 --> 38:57.094 And it's a funny thing. I had a month to do this. 38:57.132 --> 39:02.138 Presentation, and I think I did it. 39:02.224 --> 39:06.714 The presentation was yesterday, quite honestly. No, today. 39:06.752 --> 39:09.094 Yeah. The presentation was Wednesday. 39:09.142 --> 39:23.662 Excuse me, this is Friday. The presentation was Wednesday. And I did the whole presentation Friday, Monday, and Tuesday, with a little bit of work over the weekend, a few hours of work over the weekend, and it turned out pretty well. 39:23.716 --> 39:24.320 Right. 39:24.690 --> 39:29.314 But, gosh, why do we do that? I mean, I had a month. Why couldn't I just break it down. 39:29.352 --> 39:31.186 To 15 minutes a day or a. 39:31.208 --> 39:34.814 Half an hour a day? I don't know if there's really truth. 39:34.862 --> 39:37.286 To the person that says, I do. 39:37.308 --> 39:41.426 My best work under pressure, and I do my best work at last minute. 39:41.618 --> 39:45.974 I hear people say that. I don't believe it. 39:46.012 --> 39:47.270 No, they get focused. 39:47.610 --> 39:53.994 I think this prison, you're focused because you have to be focused because you don't. Because if not, you're going to be fired, right? 39:54.112 --> 39:54.780 Yes. 39:55.470 --> 40:00.742 And that's a motivator, but that motivator doesn't kick in until the last minute. 40:00.886 --> 40:08.240 I know this presentation would have been much better and it was pretty good. It would have been much better and much more effective had I just done. 40:08.690 --> 40:10.654 A little bit, a half an hour a day. 40:10.692 --> 40:11.342 I know. 40:11.476 --> 40:16.066 Or isolated 2 hours a week to. 40:16.088 --> 40:17.198 Work on the presentation. 40:17.294 --> 40:39.210 You don't need the pressure of the deadline because once you get into that flow and it's part of the habits that you're doing, it isn't that hard and it's a little bit enjoyable. Did you find celebrating some of your successes to be rewarding and you were surprised some of the things you accomplished? 40:40.910 --> 40:44.650 I did. It was very rewarding. 40:46.830 --> 40:52.542 What was most rewarding are the processes that I've been able to change since. 40:52.596 --> 41:20.310 I came back and some of the ideas that I've been able to implement and mindset and philosophies and outlook that I've been able to change. The results are coming. They're slower than I would like, but the results are coming. And you can see that wave starting to build, but more so, I'm pleased with the process and strategy changes that. 41:20.380 --> 41:21.958 I've made since I came. 41:22.124 --> 41:22.646 Awesome. 41:22.748 --> 41:23.954 Good job, Joe. 41:24.082 --> 41:24.694 Thanks, man. 41:24.732 --> 41:27.030 I appreciate that. How about your resource? 41:27.370 --> 41:34.102 It's funny, we were talking about impulse buying and what's on my list was my resource. 41:34.166 --> 41:36.154 This wasn't really an impulse buy, I gotta say. 41:36.192 --> 41:40.670 I've been looking in stores locally and. 41:40.740 --> 41:46.030 On Amazon and other places ever since. 41:46.100 --> 41:54.122 I got for Christmas the outdoor pizza grill that my wife bought for me for Christmas. 41:54.266 --> 41:56.610 And it uses those wood pellets. 41:57.110 --> 41:59.314 And there was a nice day since. 41:59.352 --> 42:00.322 Christmas that I tried. 42:00.376 --> 42:01.874 Matter of fact, as this weather gets. 42:01.912 --> 42:04.626 Better, that's what's going to think on my mind. 42:04.808 --> 42:19.558 The way that you light the wood pellets. I had a little fire starter that I tried. It was okay. But I've always liked zippo lighters. I use that for my grill. I just like the logo and I. 42:19.564 --> 42:27.258 Don'T know, there's something about Zippo lighters I've always liked. I always have collected a couple of those. I still have a couple around. Always. 42:27.344 --> 42:30.918 They're not all that practical when you're trying to light a grill. 42:31.014 --> 42:40.426 For instance, I do charcoal grill and you take a, I have a smoke starter, the weber smoker like starter where you put all your charcoal in the top and you put some paper underneath. 42:40.538 --> 42:44.894 Well, it's really difficult to do that with a zippo. 42:44.942 --> 42:46.654 And even more so with this pizza. 42:46.702 --> 42:55.566 Grill to get those little wood chips pellets started. So I found this torch lighters seemed. 42:55.598 --> 43:06.918 To be a good thing. I didn't know much about them. And I found, speaking of finding something inexpensive, the brand name Luxgaze, I don't know that that makes any sense. You can look on Amazon and see what you like, but I got a. 43:06.924 --> 43:11.666 Two pack of torch lighters, butane, and they're refillable. 43:11.778 --> 43:33.662 So I got the refillable. I went over to Walmart to get that, but it's a jet flame lighter and you just click it on and you get this blue flame that juts out about four or five inches. And it's going to be really easy to light my grill, especially my smoker and my pizza grill. And it was for $7.99 for the two of them. So one for myself and one for my wife. 43:33.806 --> 43:36.834 Holy smoke, man. $8 for two of them. 43:36.872 --> 43:42.370 Butane lighters. Yeah, even if they're crappy. It was a nice. 43:42.440 --> 43:47.586 So does it have the extendable flame on it? 43:47.608 --> 43:50.054 I mean, like the extended arm that you kind of stick it in there? 43:50.172 --> 44:00.570 Well, it's not that long. It's only about. I don't say it's like seven or eight inches long, but the flame, it looks like a little flashlight pen flashlight. 44:00.910 --> 44:03.786 So the flame itself is seven or eight inches? No, no. 44:03.808 --> 44:07.050 This flame will get it by three or four. Gotcha. 44:09.870 --> 44:13.254 I may go on Amazon right now and pick these up, get it consistent. 44:13.302 --> 44:14.638 I'll send you the link. 44:14.804 --> 44:16.158 Yeah, awesome. 44:16.244 --> 44:18.190 And I'm a fan of Zippo lighters too. 44:18.260 --> 44:20.414 Is that, know, I struggle a bit. 44:20.452 --> 44:21.786 With getting a good night's sleep. 44:21.818 --> 44:23.234 And if I stay in a good. 44:23.272 --> 44:29.300 Evening routine, I'll typically get a good night's sleep. But part of my evening routine is. 44:29.670 --> 44:34.130 I'll listen to podcasts at night and. 44:34.200 --> 44:39.026 Kind of fade, let kind of fade away while I'm listening to a podcast. 44:39.218 --> 44:42.440 But my wife actually brought this up to me. 44:42.810 --> 45:13.566 She found it somewhere. We all know about white noise generators and kind of that hiss in the background. Well, there are certain color indicators for noise. You have white noise, you have pink noise, you have green noise and you have brown noise. And I found some brown noise on Amazon music that loops throughout the night. And it sounds like I'm on an. 45:13.588 --> 45:15.810 Airplane when I play it in the background. 45:16.230 --> 45:23.938 And, you know, I don't know if I've, I'm sure I've talked about this before. When I go on an airplane, when. 45:23.944 --> 45:28.950 That airplane's gone, I fall asleep right away. I have no idea what it is. 45:29.100 --> 45:31.586 But this brown noise sounds like I'm. 45:31.618 --> 45:36.550 On an airplane and wow, it really helps my mind relax. 45:36.970 --> 45:40.310 And what's the difference between brown noise and white noise? 45:40.670 --> 45:47.814 I don't know the science behind it, but you can hear a difference. The brown noise is more of a rumbling. 45:47.942 --> 45:50.294 The white noise is more of a hiss, more bass. 45:50.342 --> 45:56.574 But you have green noise that has different characters to it. You have pink noise that has different characters to it. 45:56.612 --> 45:59.198 So try different ones that work. 45:59.364 --> 46:05.210 Yeah, I've done white noise and that didn't really help me. But this brown noise, this rumble. 46:05.370 --> 46:05.982 Really? 46:06.116 --> 46:06.942 I can see that. 46:06.996 --> 46:07.954 Helps me sleep at night. 46:07.992 --> 46:08.146 Yeah. 46:08.168 --> 46:11.010 A little bass maybe to it. Yeah, I like that. 46:11.080 --> 46:11.874 So good deal. 46:11.912 --> 46:23.414 Some kind of brown noise generator. If you have some trouble sleeping at night or concentrating, find yourself a good brown noise generator going. And generator is not the best word. 46:23.452 --> 46:25.926 Just a file, a sound file that. 46:25.948 --> 46:27.974 You grab from Amazon music or whatever. 46:28.012 --> 46:32.346 It might be and play it in the background just to see if it helps you. 46:32.528 --> 46:34.570 I like it. I got Spotify. 46:34.990 --> 46:37.498 Yeah, I use Amazon music. 46:37.664 --> 46:54.130 I've been listening to my cable. I'm having horrible trouble with my cable television. Matter of fact, they're coming out today to finally I got up the courage to call a cable company and deal with them, but they're sending a technician out. 46:54.200 --> 46:59.010 I've been using YouTube, listening to subliminal. 47:02.230 --> 47:03.250 Talks. 47:04.310 --> 47:05.054 No kidding. 47:05.102 --> 47:06.014 Subliminal. 47:06.142 --> 47:06.820 Yeah. 47:08.550 --> 47:09.442 That's interesting. 47:09.576 --> 47:11.986 And I seem to find I fall asleep. 47:12.018 --> 47:14.834 So I don't know if it's reaching my brain. 47:14.882 --> 47:17.314 But that's one of the things I do. 47:17.452 --> 47:20.970 I put on the YouTube subliminal. 47:22.430 --> 47:30.458 That would be a great show for us to dig into whether there's a real benefit and impact to subliminal messaging. 47:30.554 --> 47:31.200 Yeah. 47:34.530 --> 47:43.178 There are those old studies of advertising where somebody flashes a subliminal message in. 47:43.204 --> 47:52.034 An advertisement where your brain doesn't know where your eyes don't see it, but your brain sees it and implants a subliminal message. 47:52.232 --> 47:53.634 So we'll see. 47:53.752 --> 47:55.634 That's kind of interesting, but I like that. 47:55.672 --> 47:56.354 Yeah. 47:56.552 --> 47:57.346 How about a quote? 47:57.378 --> 47:58.680 Do you have a quote for the week? 47:59.210 --> 48:04.102 I do. And usually our subjects are pretty easy. 48:04.236 --> 48:05.362 To come up with a quote. 48:05.426 --> 48:07.542 This one I just saw. 48:07.676 --> 48:10.154 It's kind of related to what we were talking about. 48:10.352 --> 48:13.690 I think I can make a comparison. 48:14.430 --> 48:18.394 Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world. 48:18.512 --> 48:22.590 Are the ones who do Steve Jobs. 48:23.010 --> 48:24.602 Yeah, I love this quote. 48:24.666 --> 48:25.930 You know this quote? 48:26.090 --> 48:27.354 Yeah, I love this quote. 48:27.402 --> 48:28.000 Yeah. 48:29.410 --> 48:32.714 They do the things they're supposed to do even though. 48:32.772 --> 48:33.042 Right. 48:33.096 --> 48:36.514 Everyone thinks they're crazy, and they get beyond that. 48:36.552 --> 48:36.850 Crazy. 48:36.920 --> 48:38.562 Right. They get beyond that. 48:38.616 --> 48:45.294 People thinking they're crazy because we all have. This fits really well, Kurt, actually. 48:45.432 --> 48:52.166 Because this is something that holds us back from doing the things that we. 48:52.188 --> 48:53.366 Know are right to do. 48:53.468 --> 49:00.934 Is that what other people will think? And if somebody else thinks that what you're doing is crazy, you may hold. 49:00.972 --> 49:02.346 Back from doing it. 49:02.528 --> 49:04.394 And really, it's the people who are. 49:04.432 --> 49:08.266 Crazy enough to think that they can change the world are the ones who really do it. 49:08.368 --> 49:09.594 I love this, man. 49:09.712 --> 49:17.506 Yeah. If you think you can do it, you probably can't. 49:17.558 --> 49:20.766 Mine comes from Mark Twain, and I. 49:20.788 --> 49:24.450 Like this quote because it's funny, but it's also telling. 49:25.830 --> 49:32.500 Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I know because I've done it a thousand times. 49:37.030 --> 49:37.826 Yes. 49:38.008 --> 49:42.022 He's got such a wit, Mark Twain. That's why he's quoted so much. 49:42.156 --> 49:48.914 I say something very similar. I say, I can lose weight, man. I've lost 30 pounds 30 times in my life. I can lose the weight. 49:48.962 --> 49:49.126 Yes. 49:49.148 --> 49:51.210 You've stole this one from Mark Twain. 49:51.950 --> 49:56.700 Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world. I know because I've done it thousands of times. 49:57.390 --> 50:04.640 Well, there's a chemical thing in smoking that makes it even more difficult. Right, as I'm been told. 50:05.490 --> 50:07.882 Yeah, the whole nicotine thing, I think it's dopamine. 50:07.946 --> 50:08.746 Maybe it's dopamine. 50:08.778 --> 50:09.840 That makes us. 50:10.290 --> 50:10.990 Yeah. 50:11.140 --> 50:11.854 Too much. 50:11.972 --> 50:12.542 It's that. 50:12.596 --> 50:20.434 It's the nicotine. It's the habit behind it. I smoked for years, and I quit back in my 20s, but I remember. 50:20.472 --> 50:22.722 Doing some funny things to help me. 50:22.856 --> 50:27.974 Quit smoking, and I did it cold turkey. I stopped, but I did some interesting things. 50:28.012 --> 50:30.758 So, yeah, there's Mark Twain for you. 50:30.844 --> 50:36.226 Very quotable. Mark Twain, Winston Churchill. I certainly have my favorites. 50:36.258 --> 50:36.598 Right? 50:36.684 --> 50:37.990 Ben Franklin. 50:38.970 --> 51:03.854 Well, let's wrap it up right there, Kurt. Our website is dudesinprogress.com. Dudesinprogress.com. If you want to reach out to us, dudes@dudesinprogress.com. Is our email address. We would love to hear from you. Remember, as we wrap up the day, as we wrap up the week, as we wrap up this show and we go into the next part of our day or week or life, progress is better than perfection. Let's keep moving forward. 51:04.052 --> 51:15.634 Joe, I had so much fun talking to you today. I needed it today. You always make me feel better. And I feel a little dopamine pumping through my veins right now as I head off to my bike path. 51:15.762 --> 51:25.382 Well, let's delay that instant gratification, right? Let's try to do the things that we know are right to do and don't do the things that we know are going to screw us up. 51:25.516 --> 51:26.950 Thanks for reminding me. 51:27.100 --> 51:27.650 See you, pal.